Going About Managing Relationships

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Of course, I am constantly looking for articles, videos, and other useful content that gives relationship advice which helps people to have more satisfying relationships, I ran across this excellent article which I decided I would offer to you. It is about managing relationships. Be sure to take a look at it all. Do not forget to make known your opinions so all of us can know your views:

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Going About Managing Relationships

Managing relationships is not a piece of cake. There are many resources that give us tips of how we can manage relationships effectively however, there comes a time where you are faced with great difficulties and you feel like you do not want to manage the relationships. It is not always easy to have the right attitude when it comes to difficult relationships.

However, relationships are part of life and you cannot escape them. It is vital never to give up on certain relationships no matter how low you may feel in this regard. First, let us explore some of the relationships you will find in life. There are close relationships and relationships that are not very close. Close relationships will require you to manage them wisely because more is at stake.

With relationships that are not very close, a lot may not be expected from you since you cannot decipher the minds of all people. In other words, there are relationships that matter more than others.

This is not to say that there are people who are more important than others but, it is to state that relationships close to you will affect you greatly in any eventuality. If you are in a business setting where you have to deal with many people, you will be in a position to know how to deal with people in a much larger scale. Managing relationships is something that you have to do wisely if you really want it to work well for you.

You have to ensure that you know exactly what relationship you are dealing with. Love relationships will need their own set of guidelines while business relationships are also very different. Managing relationships can really work brilliantly when you know what to do in specific situations. First, relationships in business should be kept just that. In business, respect is all you need to have to start good relations. All workers or bosses want to feel respected enough.

When you are a worker, show commitment in your work and relationships between you and your boss will work automatically.

Managing relationships in marriage needs respect commitment, love and all other values that I cannot mention. It is pretty easy to enjoy yourself when you have a relationship that is excellent. Managing relationships like these ones needs lots of work and, you have to avail time.

Most people will complain of poor relationships in marriage when they are not even willing to give their time to grow the relationships. You do not have to be the master of relationships to make them work but, you can try your best to ensure that you relate in the most convenient way.

One thing you need to remember when it comes to having fruitful relationships is that you must have good will. From the bottom of your heart, if you have good intentions towards a relationship, you will definitely succeed in this regard. Above all, make your relationships fun and, if you find that some relationships are not working for you, you have every right to terminate them.

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Building Trust In A Relationship — What Does It Mean?

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Because I am constantly searching for articles, videos, and other useful information that provides relationship advice which aids readers to have more empowering relationships, I came across this useful piece of content which I thought I would publish for you. It is about trust in relationships. Be sure to peruse it all. Do not forget to add your ideas so we can all know them:

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Building Trust In A Relationship — What Does It Mean?

Building trust in a relationship, what does it mean? There are many types of human relationship like relationship between husband and wife, relationship between parents and child, relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend, relationship between friends and many more. Let’s explore more on what does it mean by building trust in a relationship.

Human beings are fundamentally social creatures. They need to have physical and physiological interactions. These interactions are what we called relationships. There are different classifications of relationships. You have the casual relationship, intimate relationship, business relationship and other classification of relationship.

When we talked about building trust in a relationship, we are generally talking about intimate relationship where the relationship is a particularly close interpersonal relationship in which the participants know and trust each other very well or are confidence of one another or a relationship where there is physical or emotional intimacy. This is where in intimate relationships building trust in a relationship is very important for the relationship to grow and blossom.

The keyword in building trust is the word dependable. You must develop this attribute in order to build the trust in your relationship. You must be dependable for the other person in the relationship to put his or her trust in you in the particular relationship.

Can I trust you to be faithful to me — meaning can I depend on you? Can I trust you to be there for me — meaning can I depend on you? Can I trust you to protect me — meaning can I depend on you? Can I trust you to be honest with me — meaning can I depend on you?

Building trust is not by words or intentions. Building trust is by your deeds or actions. These deeds or actions have to be repeated. These deeds or actions have to be consistent. You cannot buy trust. You have to earn the trust. There is no shortcut but just constant efforts to earn the trust.

If you value your relationship, then you have to work on building the trust in your relationship. It is the basic foundation for your relationship to grow and blossom. Without a foundation, your relationship will not be strong enough to withstand the challenges in life. Watch video with great tips on building trust in a relationship here.

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Will Your Relationship Last Forever?

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Because I am frequently looking for articles, videos, and other beneficial material that offers relationship advice which assists people to have more satisfying relationships, I came across this useful article which I decided I would bring to you. It is about relationship. Be sure to read it all. Do not forget to add your comments so we can all learn from your views:

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Do you realize that it is perfectly possible for you to have a relationship that lasts forever? And a relationship that is not just normal, or struggling, but that is consistently great. I believe that you can have a relationship where you are soul mates with your partner, and in love, and that you can have this over many many years until your are finally separated by death.

I call such a relationship, a lifelong soul mate relationship.

I know that you hope for such a lifelong soul mate relationship, but I suspect that you believe that it is only possible for you in some abstract kind of way. You may even believe that such a relationship is not possible outside of fairy tales.

It is possible for you to have a lifelong soul mate relationship, and there is simple first step to achieving this.

The first step is to see if a relationship, or a prospective relationship has the potential to be a lifelong soul mate relationship.

With regard to achieving a soul mate relationship all people can be divided into three categories. These are: (1) those in relationships that will never become lifelong soul mate relationships, (2) those in relationships that can become lifelong soul mate relationships, and (3) those currently not in a relationship.

(1) Relationships that will never become lifelong soul mates.

No matter how much you want your relationship to work, if your partner does not want it to work, then it won’t. As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. Many people actually do not want to be a lifelong soul mate, preferring instead a much lesser relationship. If your partner is one of these, you have a simple choice to make, Settle for a relationship that falls far short of being a lifelong soul mate relationship, or get a new relationship. The choice is yours. The rules for having a lifelong soul mate relationship will help you judge your current relationship to see if there is any possibility of it becoming such a relationship.

(2) Those relationships that have the potential to become lifelong soul mate relationships.

These are relationships where both parties are committed to the relationship, committed to a future together, and both are interested in deepening the relationship. The chances of this type of relationship becoming a lifelong soul mate relationship are good. And remember the rules for achieving this relationship are easy to follow.

(3) Those that are not currently in a relationship

For those that are not yet in a relationship the lifelong soul mate rules can be used to judge any prospective partner, increasing the likelihood that any relationship that you are about to enter into will be a lifelong soul mate relationship.

So, take the first step to a lifelong soul mate relationship, and decide which of the above three categories your relationship fits into.

Damian Miles is a life coach and NLP Practitioner and an expert in helping people to live the life of their dreams, and helping people become Powerfully Positive People. For more information on how you can start living your dream life, or on how to become a Powerfully Positive Person and start doing so TODAY check out Damian’s website at http://www.liveyourdreamlifetoday.co.uk

Marriage Counseling – Affair Proofing Your Marriage

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Naturally, I am often searching for articles, videos, and other beneficial material that provides relationship advice which aids people to have more worthwhile relationships, I ran into this worthwhile piece of content which I thought I would show to you. It is about marriage and affairs. Be sure to read it all. Do not forget to share your ideas so we can all be aware of your point of view:

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We read about it all the time. It is on the evening news and tabloids. Famous people like Tiger Woods and Governor Mark Sanford, and not so famous people like your next door neighbor. Sometimes it seems like there is an epidemic of infidelity similar to the swine flu. It is ruining lives and marriages.

Can anything be done about it? Well, there is nothing you can do about other people’s marriages, but you can do something about your own.

The first thing you can do is put each other first after God. In our Marriage Counseling practice we hear story after story telling us how things were wonderful and then all of a sudden there was the admission of an affair. When you step back and look at the chronology it becomes apparent that it didn’t happen that way. Things were not as wonderful as one of the spouses thought. Marriages don’t go from Heaven to Hell overnight.

There are numerous outside influences in marriages and it is extremely important to protect your relationship from distractions and external attacks.

You can protect yourself and your relationship by making sure that you put your spouse first. When you marry that means that your “family” that you were born into or adopted into no longer is your first priority. This can be difficult but is necessary. You can also protect your relationship by making sure you do not continue close relationships with members of the opposite sex. It can be very tempting to go to a friend to talk about marital problems and create a bond of understanding that can often lead into an affair. You think not? We see it all the time.

You can protect your marriage by being sensitive to meeting your spouse’s needs.

It all starts with communication and having each of your needs met. Your spouse can’t meet your needs if they don’t know your needs. They can’t know your needs if you don’t tell them. They can’t understand the needs you have told them about if they do not listen…….really listen.

Your spouse will be more interested in meeting your needs when you have a similar interest in meeting their needs.

A great way to “affair proof” your marriage is to engage in regular emotionally connecting conversation. This will allow you to keep current. Share all of your emotions whether they are mad, sad, glad, or scared.

If you are in a situation where your spouse’s behavior or words are causing you pain, it is important to talk it through in order to keep your relationship from becoming a time bomb. A Marriage full of praise, affirmation and appreciation is far more likely to flourish rather than one filled with control, criticism and complaints.

Be a blessing to one another and have a blessed marriage.

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Top 10 Ways on How to Catch a Cheating Husband

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As I am frequently looking for articles, videos, and other worthwhile information that gives relationship advice which helps readers to have more enjoyable relationships, I discovered this useful item which I decided I would share with you. It is about husband. Be sure to take a look at it all. Do not forget to provide your opinions so the rest of us can appreciate them:

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Cheating husbands leave many signs and with a bit of detective work, a wife can catch her husband with sold proof. Many wives make the mistake of hiring an expensive detective or purchasing pricey spy equipment. However, if you are aware of some of the signs of a cheating husband and know your husband’s behavior and habits well, you simply need to follow your gut instinct and employ some of the top 10 ways of how to catch a cheating husband. Most of all, be patient. Give yourself 3-4 weeks of spying time.

Pay close attention to small details and use all your senses so you don’t miss a sign of a cheating husband. Make sure you keep a log book of descriptions, dates and times of all the clues you discover. If you find a clue, make a copy of it if possible. NEVER accuse him of an affair unless you have concrete proof he was cheating because you may have to use this proof in a court of law should you pursue divorce.

If you don’t have solid proof, many cheating men lie and make up stories or will call you crazy. Plan your confrontation out in your mind so you will be prepared and armed with facts and evidence. If you have children, make sure they are in a safe, protected place. In addition, don’t become a cheating wife to get revenge. It only causes more problems and will be used against you.

1. Set a trap. Cheating husbands usually cheat when their wife is out of town. Tell your husband that you are leaving for a couple of days and then wait, listen and watch. Place a recording surveillance device in your bedroom or near the phone and then listen. Park in a friend’s car with a hat and sunglasses on and follow his car or wait for someone to come to the house.

Keep a camera, binoculars and a cell phone with you. Cheating husbands usually take their affair out for dinner and a rendezvous while you are gone. Give your cheating husband lots of space to make a mistake. Your husband will leave cheating signs unknowingly.

Make sure you are “busy” or out of the house a lot while you are investigating. Take a long nap under your bed at lunch or in the evening or place a long recording digital tape recorder which is voice activated under the bed. This wouldn’t work if you have children or a dog.

2. Watch his cell phone. A sign of a cheating husband can be if he protects his cell phone with a password, unexpectedly ask to borrow his cell phone to make an important call. Then make a fake call, pressing as many buttons of his call log as possible to note any strange calls. Go to bathroom with phone if at all possible.

Watch whether his cell phone is always turned off when with you or whether he takes unusually long to phone you back. Note the times, dates and length of any suspicious calls. Press the re-dial on the phone or *69. This is an effective way to find out who they’ve been calling.

3. Place a long-recording digital tape recorder under your cheating husband’s car seat every morning and then listen to it when you are alone. Please check the laws in your city or state to make sure it is legal to record someone in your car if they are borrowing it. The same goes for a GPS tracking device which tracks everywhere your husband’s car goes. GPS tracking devices are now made the size of a pack of chewing gum so they are easy to hide.

4. Monitor your husband’s computer usage. Does he use the computer late at night or for an unusual amount of time? Cheating husbands frequently utilize free email services such as hotmail, msn, yahoo, gmail, hushmail, etc… Check his internet web browser history for warning signs. If you suspect your husband is cheating, you can install a keystroke logger which will log every keystroke your husband types, including his passwords. There are many good ones currently for sale.

5. A sign of a cheating husband could be if he is frequenting any dating sites, create a fake profile on-line of someone you think your husband would be attracted to and then start flirting. Many wives have successfully used this technique.

6. Be careful of your cheating husband’s close friends who may cover for him because of loyalty feelings. Even if they don’t approve of your husband’s cheating ways, they may still cover for his cheating by providing an alibi for him.

7. Set booby traps in your house. If you think your cheating husband may be bringing someone into your home while you are traveling or out, set some traps. Put on a clean set of sheets and then place a crumb on the bedspread. Make sure that a dog or cat don’t move it. Then check to see if the crumb is still in the same place after your return.

8. Get your girlfriend’s to help. Sign up a willing acquaintance or girlfriend to hit on your husband at a pre-determined location to see if he will bite. It is helpful if she carries a tape recorder in her purse so you may hear him.

9. Monitor your husband’s driving habits for a month. Watch for increase in gas receipts and monitor the car’s odometer to see if there are extra unexplained miles on the car. Monitor the time he leaves for work and the time he comes home. You should be able to establish a pattern by keeping a calendar and noting the times. If your husband claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify his overtime.

If your husband explains a late return home as a result of having to drive out of town on business, yet the mileage on the car indicates less than ten miles driven, you’ll have caught your cheating husband in a lie which may be due to his adultery.

10. Paper signs of a cheating husband can include unexplained receipts, more frequent ATM withdrawals, and unexplained credit card charges. Note any strange dates and times. Is there a restaurant charge when he should have been at work? Check his business deductions if possible.

If you have tried some of the above tips on how to catch a cheating husband and have been unsuccessful, try playing your poker face. Pretend like you know something and give him 24 hours to come clean or else… However, only resort to this after you have tried all other means because if you accuse him, your husband will know you are on to him, deny any wrong doing and cover his cheating tracks better next time.

Stephany Alexander is a relationship expert and CEO/Founder of WomanSavers.com – The World’s Largest Database Rating Men. She holds a degree in Communications and is the author of the book “Sex, Lies and the Internet.”

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How To Make Your Relationship More Exciting

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How To Make Your Relationship More Exciting

Throughout my professional career I’ve come across many people that were lacking excitement in their relationship. Many of them have experienced some form of it in the beginning of their relationship- but they all seem to ask me the same question…”where did all the fun go…and how can I get it back?”

I know that when you’re starting a new relationship it may be fun, exciting, and there are few arguments (if any). Someone even compared it to buying a new car and having that new car smell. But what happens after all the fun stops?

Here’s what you can do to get the fun back:

1. Show your creative side. When it comes to making a successful, long-lasting relationship, sometimes we need to think outside of the box. Coming up with fresh ideas for love and romance (or even where the next place you’ll go to spend time together) could be the key to keeping your relationship thrilling.

2.Get Spontaneous. Do things “just because”. Surprise your partner by planning a nice romantic getaway. Summer is here, so traveling around this time may be very enjoyable for the both of you.

3. Talk to your partner. Find out from your partner why your relationship is starting to get boring. Are there things going on in his/her life (bills, work, etc) that’s stressing him/her out (this may be the reason for the lack of excitement)? Or is he/she just plainly losing interest in the relationship? Communicate with your partner to find out what’s going on and then take it from there.

Whatever you need to do to make your relationship more exciting, then do it. You have to be the pro-active one if you want to get the love life that you desire.

Relationship Expert/ Professional Matchmaker Daniel Amis has helped many people create the relationship of their dreams. He publishes weekly E-zines that’s inspiring, fun, and insightful. If you’re ready to get the love that you desire, then subscribe at www.findyouridealmatch.com or www.relationshipadvice4you.com and get your FREE tips today!

Marriage Problems That Can Easily Poison your Relationship

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Marriage problems can creep into any marriage. These problems must be dealt with quickly otherwise they will poison your relationship. As there are some problems which can be very disastrous to a marriage it is best to make sure that such problems are uprooted quickly.

Some of the marriage problems which are found in a marriage can be a couple’s incompatibility. At other times infidelity is a prime example of martial disasters. These are problems which need to be handled with care. Otherwise the entire marriage can crumble into an acrimonious divorce. In the case of incompatibility the couple may need to find some common interests.

They can also try to find how their differences can complement their marriage. When these alternatives don’t work they can seek to end their relationship. If they have tried many solutions but remain good friends the parting of the couple can be amicable. Otherwise the divorce can become very messy.

With marriage problems like infidelity the matter needs to be answered quite differently. This is due to the nature of each partner. There are some couples who might have decided that marital infidelity can be forgiven once. The second time around a divorce is the only solution. At these instances the reason for the infidelity may need to be found.

If there is no hope for the marriage problems that have resulted from infidelity to be resolved a painless divorce could be the saving of the couple. These are some of the common marriage problems. There are however more serious marriage problems that necessitates the need for divorce.

These problems involve spousal abuse. The abuse that results from a disastrous marriage like this, can lead to the victim being scared for their life and other family members. This abuse will also contribute towards the spouse having an unbalanced view of life. For these simple yet complex reasons the only hope for the victim of spousal abuse is the quick ending of the relationship

When a couple encounters marriage problems they have many options open to them. Based on these options the couple’s marriage will either last or break up. To make sure –no matter what conclusion is reached – that the marriage does not turn ugly, the partners of the marriage will need to seek help from a trained marriage counselor. This individual can help mediate the differences that are found between the couple.

This mediation is the key to a couple being able to live a happy life. Even if they are no longer a couple. With the help of marriage counselors marriage problems can be reduced to their proper proportions. Life can then begin anew.

Muna wa Wanjiru is a web administrator and has been researching and reporting on internet marketing for years. For more information on marriage problems, visit his site at MARRIAGE PROBLEMS

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Divorce: An Emotional Rollercoaster

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Divorce is never a pleasant experience. The emotions involved before, during and after divorce can be very painful, confusing, complex and sometimes frightening. However, learning from how others coped with the trauma may help one in picking up the threads and moving on in life…

Divorce is never a pleasant experience.

The emotions involved before, during and after divorce can be painful, confusing, complex and sometimes frightening. Picking up the threads and moving on may seem like the most difficult thing to do and requires considerable effort and adjustment. We spoken to people who have had to grapple with divorce induced trauma – people who have emerged triumphant after the ordeal and are now leading more productive, fulfilling lives

Actress Sarha married Ranvir Singh, at the peak of her film career and happily threw it all away just to be the quintessential Indian wife. When things began spiraling out of control, she opted for a divorce after ten years of marriage. The decision left her with custody of her young son but minus a steady source of income and a roof over her head. She had to start from scratch. “Those who have been through the ordeal know that a divorce is the hardest, most traumatic period of one’s life. And it doesn’t just involve the two of you but your respective families as well, including the children, who are affected most.

The grief & pain is similar to that experienced when someone close to you dies. But in this case, the person concerned is still alive and getting on with his own life – perhaps in the same neighborhood.”

She recalls one of the most frustratingly awkward situations, “Whenever I would go to a friend’s house and there were children there with both their parents and there I was standing all alone with my child. It was at times like these that all that hurt and anger came rushing back. I felt, ‘How could he do this to us?’ It’s all his fault!”

“Today, me and Ranvir are the best of friends. If I have something to share, I call him up. The three of us go out for movies or dinner together or with common friends. But to reach this comfort level, I’ve had to work on my ego issues and insecurities, as immediately after the divorce, there was a lot of resentment and anger.”

The ex didn’t do much to help either, “The day after the divorce was legalized, Ranvir threw his friends a so-called ‘freedom party’ to celebrate his new-found freedom from the wife. This was probably done to spite me and yes it hurt. I have managed to let go and moved on, but my mother still cannot bring herself to forgive my ex-husband.

It is after all natural for a parent to hold a grudge against someone who has hurt their offspring and ruined his/her life.”

While her mother and sister Tina stood by her through it all, Sarha claims her strongest ally was herself. “A divorce leaves you at your most vulnerable, but you have to be strong if you have to pull through that phase. Friends will console you and hold your hand, but can they share your pain? Or your loneliness? Moreover most married women are scared of a divorced woman.

They may be your closest friends, but once you’re single again they think of you as a threat; someone out to snare their man for herself in order to fill the void.”

Looking back in retrospect Sarha says, “I had tried really hard to make it work. But Ranvir though jobless refused to give up on his gambling and insisted on keeping the wrong kind of company. These were things that infuriated me and lead to heated arguments.

The fights when looked at individually weren’t really all that important, but as they got more frequent, the bad times began outweighing the good and I decided enough was enough. I wish his parents had intervened at that stage. Or perhaps had insisted that he get his act together, but they didn’t.

It was more convenient to blame the wife and take his side. After we divorced, Ranvir’s mother tried to get me to come back. But it was too late.”

Sarha admits that like 99 per cent of divorced mothers she too wanted to lash out at her ex-husband in the most obvious way – by denying him visitation rights. “If the father is fond of his child, the best way to hurt him is to separate him from his child. But this is detrimental to the growth of the child who ends up insecure and resentful of the fact that he never got an opportunity to know his/her father.

My parents too were divorced and I never got to know my father. I don’t blame my mother for not keeping in touch with my him; I’m sure she had her reasons. But those feelings of remorse did surface at times when I saw my classmates in school with both their parents,” she says.

“I wanted my son to feel complete and loved and not grow into an insecure, manipulative child who slyly pits one parent against the other to get his way. Hence I put in a determined attempt to bridge the gap caused by our divorce.” And in doing so Sarha has also succeeded in moving on with her life, “I am on friendly terms with Ranvir and his present girlfriend. I am into film production and other business”.

Prod on about the chances of a second marriage and she reveals, “Yes, there is another man in my life, but marriage isn’t on the cards. I’m not yet ready to step into another relationship.” A case of once bitten, twice shy.

Model Saurab talks candidly about his failed marriage with model/actress Geeta, “Sure I made many mistakes; I’m only human. I’m not a saint. And I don’t believe in blinding myself from the truth.

Most people don’t realize or refuse to accept their mistakes. Their pride, ego, etc. prevent them from coming to terms with reality. And it’s much easier to hold your ex responsible for the failure of your relationship by saying, ‘Oh it was all her/his fault!’ So what if the marriage didn’t work out. Accept your mistakes and move on.”

Saurab and Geeta have been separated for five months and their divorce is yet to come through, but the soon-to-be ex-husband matter-of-factly states that he has moved on. “Basically, it all boils down to the individual’s state of mind. Like most other things divorce cannot be labeled ‘good’ or ‘bad’. What society at large refers to as a ‘bad’ thing may just have some good come out of it.”

He elaborates, “Divorce is simply a clash of two minds. Sure, you should try to iron out differences through marital counseling, etc. But if the problems are irreconcilable it is better to let go and part ways. Time is the best healer.” The model turned businessman is today immersed in his work and is bares all about his failed marriage, but Geeta on the other hand feels she still isn’t comfortable discussing the relationship.

The outcome of a divorce is often two embittered individuals who simply can’t stand the sight of each other. But this needn’t always be the case. Couples who have split after a brief marriage find it easier to overcome the pain and the hurt and remain friends or at least maintain a cordial relationship. As Gautam so succinctly puts it, “Life is too short to harbor ill-feelings.”

But the anger and hurt cannot be suppressed either and needs to be redirected to serve a constructive purpose. Sameer turned television actress Mahima says she used the anger to propel her to move on with her life. “The divorce took around a year and a half to come through and this was the toughest phase. I found myself battling over petty material possessions and property.”

She continues, “It was all very upsetting. There was this constant bickering, ‘why should you have this, I bought it’. Not because I really wanted it but just to get back at him. I even used to have these nightmares of spotting him with a new wife. When he did eventually get married, I was surprisingly okay with it.”

She says, “After a month or two, I would often just burst out crying. It was like as if something had died and there was this mourning process I had to go through, where I found it difficult to even eat.” But it was only a matter of time before the mourning period came to an end and she found a new purpose in life, a raison d’etre. “I fell in love with ISKON – Hare Krishna Land. The experience was so divine.

I now found the time to pursue my love for philosophy which was something I wanted to do since the age of 19.” Mahima is also grateful for the support of the parents who though traditional in their views stood by her through her divorce. “I come from a family where we believe marriage is for keeps. Divorce was not a done thing.

Yet my parents have been so gracious and dignified. There was none of that ‘we told you so’ nor do they discus my marriage with others.”

Sheepishly the actress admits to even going through a phase when she was so emotionally vulnerable and attracted to anyone and everyone. “I would look at an Restaurent waiter and tell my friend ‘oh he’s so cute and so nice’.” Then suddenly on a serious note she adds, “I always knew Dilip and myself were not right for each other.

We were just so different. He is so cool and chilled out and I am over hyper and very restless. I would constantly break up with him, but the attachment and attraction was so strong that after two days I’d go back to him. I glad we did get married else I would always have wondered what life would him would have been like. Now I know. While he was a very loving and attentive husband, there was no respect in the relationship – it was very immature.”

Like her ex-husband Mahima says men tend to move on quicker than women. If not emotionally at least physically. But Sameer begs to differ, “I can’t speak for all men, but I haven’t hastily jumped into another relationship. For me it has always been career first and that’s what I’m focusing on right now. I’m also very spiritual and that has helped keep me on track.”

Mahima advises, “You need to put your emotions on the back burner. If you feel you are better off without a particular person, stick by your decision. Be detached and very focused on what you want. Even if you are dating or married, spend time with your family and friends, go out with them on holidays, traveling or just shopping.

There’s more to life than just being in a relationship. You don’t have to be together 24/7. By all means love to the fullest, but down let your partner own you. Sarha too seconds this view. “While it is important to give your partner his space, it is also equally essential to give yourself space.”

Both women agree that is vital for a wife to be financially independent for their men to respect them. “If you can’t work outside the home because of the kids, work from the home itself. Take up tailoring or catering, something you are good at. When your man knows you have other options, you aren’t helpless and dependent he will think twice before taking you for granted or straying,” says Sarha.

But not all divorce related problems come with a simple solution. Take for example the case of Mahesh, an architect. He separated from his wife over four years ago, leaving behind an eight -year-old daughter in her custody. A year after their separation he moved in with Aditi, a public relations consultant and they have been living together ever since. The ride was a bumpy one and the arrival of their son only made matters worse.

Mahesh confesses that the divorce was painful and further complicated his life. “I love my daughter very much and would like to spend more time with her. In fact, I would like to be a good father to both my children. Though the differences between me and my ex-wife were irreconcilable, I can’t help but feel like I have abandoned them and that there are times when they need me.”

Aditii too admits that the weekly custody visits leave her feeling insecure and threatened. “The thought that three of them are spending time together as a family is very disconcerting. I guess my insecurities stem from the fact that the two of us still haven’t married. Every time he goes to see Marina (his daughter), I am constantly plagued by doubts, ‘What if they patch up? What happens to me and my son? Sure I’m doing well and I can take care of the both of us. But doesn’t my son deserve a father?

After Mahesh had split with his ex he was a shattered man. I helped him piece his life back together and now they seem to be getting along fine.” Obviously Mahesh and Aditi raise questions that seem impossible to answer and doubts difficult to quell. The two have issues that can be only done away with proper counseling and therapy sessions.

Whatever your experience of divorce may be, it is worth remembering that there is life after divorce. And it can be a blessing in disguise for it isn’t often that we get a chance to break clean and start over. As Sameer says, “Its all about progression, so don’t get disheartened.”

Some of the names have been changed on request.

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You will undoubtedly, over the course of your marriage, hear and give a fair share of marriage advice. This can range from keeping your romance alive to how to decide who gets control of the remote. All of this is well and good as long as you remember one thing: even with advice, no marriage is perfect.

You will still have to work things out, talk things over and try to figure out where you stand on every issue. Marriage is all about compromise and understanding. While this may be difficult at times, it is still essential if you want to make your marriage work. Still, even with that said, there are some basic marriage advice tips that will make things run a bit more smoothly.

Most marriage advice centers around the little everyday activities. This makes sense simply because these are the things you should not have to worry about. There are too many larger issues that you will have to deal with. Let us offer a few helpful marriage advice tips:

Keep to the issue: the worst thing you can do during a fight is to turn it into an insult competition. You are mad at a problem, not each other. Bringing in faults or even past mistakes will only make the situation worse.

Know that you will fight occasionally: you will experience problems. Nobody’s marriage is perfect. Even with marriage advice, you will still have to deal with issues. This does not mean that you have a weak marriage, just a normal one.

Understand the value of humor: while trying to make a joke during an argument can be ill-timed, knowing that life is not so serious helps keep things in perspective. You are less likely to argue in the first place if you can simply laugh about the things you can’t control.

Sometimes, you have to wait: even when an issue seems urgent, if you are both upset, it may be better to wait a few days. Give yourself, and your partner, a chance to think things over before you both say something you regret. This does not mean to forget the issue entirely but, rather, to let it cool for a bit before pursuing it. You may find it is not so important after a day’s reflection.

It’s all about the differences: learn to love your partner’s quirks and habits. While some may annoy you (and that will happen), you cannot demand that they change everything to suit you, just as they can’t ask that of you. While some requests are reasonable (not throwing their shoes in the middle of the room, for example), do not try to change them. Accept your differences and learn to reach a balance point.

This is all very basic marriage advice but you would be amazed at how many people fail to follow it. These are the same people that believe a marriage should be perfect and they should never fight. The only piece of marriage advice we can give to that is this: You will fight and you will have problems. But, if you love each other, you will remember that you can get through it, usually just by sitting down and talking it out.

Mary Shawe is the author of several books on marriage and relationships. Please visit her website to learn more.

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A bad relationships is poisonous to both the body and the soul. If you are in a bad relationships you had better get out. There are people who have very low self esteem of themselves. They sometimes try to make other people feel bad about themselves too. They will make sure they highlight all the bad things in their mates make their partners feel less of a person.

A toxic partner will also make you feel bad because they do not want you to have the courage to leave them. They will even go further and make you feel there is no other person in the world that could possibly love you because you do not deserve it. They might even make you think they are doing you a favor by loving you and being with you. They will make you feel very useless.

A bad relationships is one where your partner keeps telling you how stupid you are. Every time you try to do something they will tell you it is a stupid thing that even a child could have thought better than you. They will even go ahead and tell you how stupid the idea is and how it cannot work.

Sometimes you might even see they make sense because you probably never thought it could go like that. But that does not mean it cannot work out. If you were to review the project anyway you will discover like any other project it has its own disadvantages and what they were telling you about is just one obstacle. What about the many advantages associated with it?

A bad relationships is one where your partner frequently threatens you. Your partner might frequently threaten to leave you or even to kill you. According to them, you do not add any value to anyone’s life and it would be better if you left, and its not only leaving them but if you left the world completely. They might even once in a while give you a thorough beating to make their point clear. A bad relationships has a degree of some domestic violence.

If you are in a relationship and your partner does not respect you that is a bad relationships. Your partner might embarrass you when you friends and family members are around. He or she might also cause the children to disrespect you. This because of the things they tell the children about you.

Children will not respect their parents if the partners to do not respect each other. Just like an abusive relationship, you should never stay in a bad relationships. You might be scared of getting out of it but the greatest courage is loving yourself enough to be able stand up for yourself and saying enough is enough and leave. You might end up not recognizing your self if you stayed longer in a bad relationships. They will make you feel unimportant and make you retreat in your shell. You might even start depending on them for everything.

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