by Peter Eastern

Do Men Cheat More Than Women?

by Dean Cortez

So who cheats more, men or women? This is a popular and controversial question. There aren’t any exact statistics available on this, and the numbers would surely be innacurate, anyway. This is because when it comes to people admitting their cheating in polls and surveys, men tend to inflate their number of affairs and sexual partners,
while women tend to hide or downplay the extent of their extramarital affairs.

According to a poll conducted by WomanSavers.com, over 62% of women think that en
cheat more than women. This isn’t surprising — because most of the voters were women!

Naturally, women believe that men do most of the cheating, while men will argue that women cheat “just as much as they do.”

Is this really true? Some experts say that these days, women and men do cheat in equal numbers. The difference is that men who cheat tend to be more “serial” about it — they cheat with a variety of sexual partners. Women, on the other hand, are more likely to get into a longer-term extramarital relationship.

Decades ago, men surely did most of the cheating because they had far more opportunities to do so. It is true that most affairs begin in the workplace, and back then, men were the only ones that HAD a workplace to go to. Women stayed at home and took care of the kids and the household.

Today, of course, men and women are both in the workplace and interacting with members of the opposite sex. Women are spending more time at work with their male colleagues than at home with their husbands. The workplace is also fertile ground for cheating because people tend to leave their grumpy feelings behind when they go to work. At home, people are stressed out over bills, taking care of the kids, and problems with their spouse; when they go to work, they can leave all of that behind.

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Also, people tend to look their best at work. They want to look attractive and presentable. In the workplace, men see women — and women see men — in their “best light.” It’s not the same when they’re at home, lounging around in a pair of sweatpants.   

According to a survey, 46 percent of unfaithful wives and 62 percent of unfaithful husbands have had affairs with someone they met at work. So you see, cheating at the workplace is a very big problem — and it’s happening with both men and women.

Another interesting statistic shows that the more money a husband has, or earns, the more likely he is to cheat on his wife. Having cash enables a man to travel, to join clubs, and to take time off from work. It also enables him to purchase gifts for other women, or pay for hotel rooms and travel when they want to get together.

Men who don’t have much money tend to spend more time and attention on their families.

They have less time alone (which could otherwise be spent pursuing women), and they lack the funds to carry on affairs or take care of a mistress. But, this is not to say that the Average Joe who earns a regular wage is not going to cheat. Many of these guys do cheat, they just tend to have a harder time covering their tracks — and they often get busted.

Through my research, I’ve also found that most men who cheat aren’t looking to get involved in long-term “affairs” with one woman. In America, it’s not common for cheating men to keep a mistress on the side. It’s much more likely that they are pursuing casual sex with different women, and one-night stands.

The other big question people ask is WHY men cheat, versus why women cheat. Do men and women stray for different reasons? The common assumption is that men are ruled by their sex drives and cheat mostly for sexual gratification, while women cheat when they feel emotionally neglected.

Well, my research has shown that “neglect” is the operative word in MOST cheating situations. When men feel neglected, they cheat. When a woman feels neglected by her husband, she’ll be open to offers from other men. This neglect can come in many forms — in the bedroom, or simply not taking an active interest in your partner’s feelings and being emotionally supportive when they have troubles.

The reason why infidelity is so common in our society is that too many people place more value on their careers, children, hobbies and friends than they do on their relationships with their partners. When you neglect your relationship and your partner, it’s may be only a matter of time before they start looking for happiness elsewhere. No one wants to feel neglected.

The bottom line is this: if you want to avoid becoming yet another infidelity statistic, you must nurture your relationship on a daily basis and pay attention the warning signs, before it’s too late.

A person’s ability to ask difficult and sometimes uncomfortable questions of oneself and the other person is a small price to pay if it helps both people avoid an unhealthy or poorly matched relationship. The phrase “pay now or pay later” is very applicable to the dating and decision making process. It’s vital to know if the two of you are compatible for the long term. Great questions can help you to get the answers you’re looking for.

Is the attraction mutual? It is believed by both genders that certain women and men are so desirable, “he’s a catch – she’s a babe” that the issue of mutual attraction is largely ignored.

Here’s an example. Let’s assume that Brittany is hotly pursued by Tony. He is told by many friends that “he would be lucky to be with a girl like her.” Tony wins her over as a result of his pursuit. They date and marry. Now Brittany was impressed by the attention she received from Tony, she felt special, even though she found that there were many things about Tony she didn’t relate to or even like.

As a result of the compliments and kindness she was receiving from him, she ignored many of her thoughts and feelings regarding their relationship. She was also concerned about the possibility of no other man wanting her like he did and thus leaving her alone and lonely.

A number of years into their relationship, Tony realizes that Brittany isn’t that attracted to him and the affection they used to share is absent. Their relationship is in trouble and he’s feeling frustrated and angry. Is the attraction mutual?

Is the attraction mutual over time? Whether we like it or not, it takes time to really get to know each other, to really find out how compatible two people are. It’s well known that most of the activities we engage in each day are governed by our subconscious mind…85 to 90%.

These behaviours are habitual and have usually been a part of our lives for years and years. The remaining 10 to 15% of our activities are carried out by our conscious mind. We make conscious choices about what will eat for dinner, how to respond to a complaining customer, or what to wear to work.

Early in the dating process we are more conscious or conscientious about our clothes, manners, attitude, etc. We usually want to make a good impression. It’s common for members of the relationship to relax on their efforts to conciously try and impress their partner the longer they are together. This is when a person’s conditioned habits and beliefs can be more easily seen by the other party.

This is why people who date and commit too quickly find themselves years later looking at their mate and wondering “who are you?” “You’re not the person I fell in love with!?!?” Correct. The person you fell in love life was consciously behaving in a certain manner. The person you’re now with is the same, except they’re living from their habits, their habitual behaviour, which is what the subconscious mind stores and references for playback.

A great question to ask when dating is…“in order to make the most intelligent decision possible, are you willing to take the necessary time to date me so we can both be sure of our decision?”

The best relationships, the healthy ones, are based on high levels of mutual trust and respect. Trust and respect are earned, not simply given out freely. When we consider deep human relationships of any sort, we are talking about people who have walked together through many different experiences and learned and grown from those experiences.

If a deep, lasting relationship is what you want, then it’s vital to put the relationship to the test while dating. Combined with the pleasurable and fun aspects of marriage, there are the mundane and uninspiring activities. Can you talk about somewhat difficult topics during dating, or is it all just about fun, fun, fun?

The likelihood of you enjoying a good solid marriage will be in no small part determined by your ability to ask important questions during the dating process.

Is the attraction mutual? In order to really get to know the other person and their habitual behaviour, are the two of you willing to date for a year before making a long term commitment to marriage?

Who we are is defined by our habits. It’s not what I do once in a while that is nearly as telling as what I do daily, weekly or monthly. Is the attraction mutual overtime? Do you like their habits? Do you want to marry the kind of habits they’ve got?

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Is there a way for you to tell if he wants a relationship or not? Do you feel like you may be getting mixed signals or simply don’t know how to read him? Do you want to know if he is into you without having to ask?

Women and men think and act differently and sometimes communication between the sexes is fraught with misunderstandings. It can be especially confusing for a girl when she knows that she likes a guy, but is uncertain if he feels the same. Read on to find out three indications that the guy you are into is into you too.

He makes you a top priority.

When you call him on the phone he usually answers right away, or if not, he calls you back within a couple of hours. He makes it a point to see you often and when the two of you spend time together it is almost always a few hours or more. He often invites you out on dates on the weekends- prime date nights- and he is regretful and tries to schedule for a later time if you are unable to make it.

If this sounds like your guy, then you can mark one point in the ‘he’s into me’ slot. However, if the guy that you are dating often fails to return your calls in a timely manner and only calls you himself every one or two weeks than there is only a slim chance that he wants a relationship with you.

He takes charge

He is the one who asked you out to begin with and throughout your time together he is the one who sets up dates and invites you. He usually has an idea of what he would like the two of you to do, even though he is still flexible about details. If on the other hand he constantly waits for you to suggest that the two of you get together and if he rarely has anything special in mind, this is probably because he doesn’t feel inspired to be in the effort.

He respects you enough to wait.

He may have made a play to get you in the sack at some point already, and that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s a jerk. Men tend to want to start the sexual side of a relationship before women are ready to. If he tried and you said no and he sticks around and treats your decision with respect then he likes you.

This means that he is genuinely interested in getting to know you and not just in sleeping with you. If he takes off after you say no then you are better off without him so don’t sweat it. These three clues should help you figure out if your guy wants a relationship or if it is time to start looking for someone new.

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As a matter of fact, there’s no place like Asia. And there’s no one quite like Asians when it comes to matters of the heart. Want to give your relationship some love power? Perhaps a lovable Asian girl will conquer a Westerner’s attention. Give your couple hood the lift it needs – by employing classics and undeniably Asian traits one has been accustomed with.

Do you ever wonder why most Western guys often prefer Asian women? This article makes sense of its complex connotations and possible reasons why it just feels good to have an Asian woman for a wife.

1. Simple and Easy to Please. The moment a man sees a girl as ‘easy to please’, an assumption that it doesn’t take much to make this girl happy is possible and the gut feeling that she’ll less likely to reject him is a potential. Extravagant dates, elaborate display of affection, ostentatious love and flower-strewn surprises – these are alien to a simple Asian girl. She rather prefers watching the sunset on a first date and a simple dine in a plain restaurant on succeeding rendezvous.
2. Not Aggressive. Men are intimidated by strong women, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that Western guys don’t like strong women. What a Western man wants is someone who really needs him. For these guys, Asian women’s non aggressiveness can mean being devoid of those vixenish ways. She’s not the type who makes the first move and definitely not promiscuous.
3. Plain and Natural. Western guys go for women who already look beautiful in her natural state and this exactly what Asian girls exude. They are plain and natural even without the need for colorful makeup, pompous accessories and Avant-garde wardrobe. They can be beautiful even with simple clothes and light makeup.
4. What You See is What You Get. Western men are liberated and free spirited individuals. They like Asian ladies who both exude simplicity and straightforwardness. What works for men – it’s usually the ‘what you see what you get attitude’.
5. One of the boys. Western guys are linear thinkers; their belief in one-thing-at-a time-approach to life serves as a mantra. Men admiringly adore a woman for a girlfriend and wife in the process if she can get away with both hands and feet dirty without complains and protests. A Western man love an Asian woman for a wife as these women can ditch those girly attitudes fast. She’s always up for the challenge and can remain steady even in sticky instances.
6. The Loving Asian Woman. One of the best traits that Western men couldn’t simply resist is the love and care that Asian women are known for. All women are loving and caring but there’s something to what these Asian beauties can offer that none of other neighboring women from other countries could provide a man. Western men are captivated by this kind of affection making them want more of Asian looks and prettiness.

These are some of the traits Western men loved about Asian women. When men say they’d rather spend their days with an Asian woman, they actually explicate a woman who’s not hard nosed, assertive, or rigid, rather a simple and a girl worth keeping.

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