When your husband doesn’t want to have sex it can be puzzling and disturbing. Insecurity and a rampant imagination can add greatly to the difficulties. Here is an article to consider which shines a light on the issues. After you’ve read it, don’t forget to provide your thoughts so everyone can know your comments:

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Your Husband Doesn’t Want to Have Sex? 5 Amazing Answers and Solutions

By Dr. Randy Carney

So you find your husband doesn’t want to have sex? That indeed is amazing to you because when you were first married, all you had to do was “show up,” and he was ready. The last thing you thought would happen to the two of you would be that you would have marriage intimacy problems.

This state of your marriage is also amazing to you because you read books saying that for many husbands, his number one or number two need is physical intimacy. When your husband doesn’t want sex, many questions can form in your mind.

This may start to cause insecurity on your part. Does he not love you anymore? Does he not find you attractive? While sometimes this may be the case, surprisingly, many times there are other factors..While this may not represent some of the biggest marriage problems, it can certainly be one of the top marriage problems when it reaches extremes.

Some who help others work through marriage problems have discovered a secret.

Here is the secret:

When a husband does not want to have sex, yes, the wife should check up on the two areas in insecurity just mentioned, but actually there are five answers to the question. Each of these five answers do NOt mean that he does not love you anymore. Neither do they mean that he no longer finds you attractive;

Here are the surprising five answers and some solutions:

1. He may be experiencing some physical problems, and he is embarrassed to talk to you about it. some of these types of problems can be very damaging to his ego. Since he wants you to look up to him, he finds it difficult to talk about this kind of failure. Solution: work on keeping lines of communication open. Be understanding. Help him feel comfortable enough to talk to you. These types of problems can be helped by consulting a medical professional.

2. He may have something bothering him outside of the marriage. There may be countless pressures from his job. He may be experiencing stress. He may be worried about financial struggles. It may even surprise him that this type of stress affects the physical area of marriage. Solution: Give support. Find ways to help him relax. Reassure him of your respect.

3. He may need to connect on a deeper emotional level. You both may find this surprising, since many tend to connect the emotional level more to the wife. On the other hand, the husband wants real love and respect. If he feels you are just tolerating him, he can experience a whole range of emotions that even he may not be able to understand. Solution: Go beyond the superficial. When he wants to connect on deeper levels. Be there, ready to talk and to listen.

4. He has a deep need for your admiration and respect. If he does not feel that he has that, he may feel beaten down–less of a man. If unchecked, this can lead to a surprising failure for him in the sexual area. Solution: be truly grateful for his good points. Avoid nagging. Avoid cutting him down. Be especially careful of what your say about him in public. Truly show your respect and admiration wherever you can.

5. He may need to have a key ingredient restored. That ingredient is passion–passion like your earlier days. The problem is that every marriage goes through a type of progression. The passion actually will take different forms. However, do what you can to bring variety into your experience. Encourage him anytime he does something right that excites you. When a little passion surfaces, add fuel to the fire.

These five amazing answers and solutions to the situations where your husband doesn’t want to have sex can be very helpful. However, they do not form the whole answer. Get all the information you can about ways to restore and enrich your marriage.

Actually, besides these five solutions, there are six keys to marital bliss. Marriage Intimacy and Six Keys to Marital Bliss. Find Out What You Need to Know About Marriage Intimacy and How it Contibutes to Marital Bliss. http://www.DrRandyCarney.Webs.Com/GreatphysicalIntimacy.htm Dr. Randy Carney is the author of The LOVING Way to a Successful Marriage: Six Keys to Mariatal Bliss. Copyright by Randy Carney.

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What Men Really Want – Sexually, That Is

What do men really want when it comes to sex? We know for a fact that they want sex, that’s the first thing and it’s worth just touching on for a second. Why? Because most guys just aren’t getting enough of it at home – that’s a fact.

So if you want to please your man and find out exactly what he really wants in bed sexually, then read on…

First and foremost (like I said above), he wants sex. Make that he ‘wants’ sex and he ‘needs’ sex. Men are really not that far removed from animals. He has urges and is animalistic. And when men aren’t satisfied sexually you can normally tell he’s being neglected. Even the mildest mannered type of guy can become unreasonable and downright unpleasant if he’s being neglected sexually.

I’ve said this many times in other articles; unless you’ve just got together and you’re still ripping each other’s clothes off, a minimum of once a week – but preferably at least three times a week (the national average) should be at least what you’re aiming for.

If you’re up and past three times a week and you’ve been together a while, then ‘Well Done You’!, for there aren’t that many women who make the effort. Seriously. It’s the number one complaint from guys, they just don’t get enough of ‘it’. This is ‘the’ number one complaint from guys (who are married or in steady relationships) who are also in therapy.

Next, your man doesn’t want to go to bed with a ‘dead fish’. So put some effort in here girls. Can you imagine the other way round – you’re raring to go and he’s just laying there. And you’re thinking, ‘God, he doesn’t even want to do this, he just wants me to get it over and done with’.

How would you feel? This is absolutely horrible for a guy. And yet it happens so frequently it’s hard to comprehend. So ‘Make the Effort’. And if you don’t want to make any effort, what on earth are you doing there?

Variety – of course ‘variety is the spice of life’ and to do the same thing day in and day out is boring and tedious and just too depressing to even think about. So, you must (ideally both of you, but you on your own if you must) inject a bit of variety into your sex life.

We all love the excitement of doing something new and different and it will really turn your guy on if you bring something new to the table, so to speak. It doesn’t have to be extreme (like a threesome or extreme bondage) but you can easily spice things up with sexy lingerie, ‘outfits’, talking dirty and/or making out someplace else other than your bed.

Take the Initiative – Men absolutely love this one. And that’s because for the vast majority of the time, ‘they’ have to make the first move when it comes to sex and making love with you. Why don’t ‘you’ take the initiative for once and make a move on him – this will blow his mind and you’ll love it yourself when you see just how much it turns him on.

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Better Sex – Going Down on Him

If you want to get closer to your partner and strengthen the bond between you, then there’s one sure fire way to achieve this, no messing. Sure, you can go out and buy him a new shirt, or cook him a meal or watch football with him but be truthful ladies, what do you think will keep him thinking about you more? Any of the aforementioned, or you going down on him? Seriously, which do you think is going to win? To achieve better sex, know that your man wants oral sex from you.

So, are you giving your man what he wants? Or are you depriving him? It is a yes or no, black or white question. And only you can answer it. Trust me, if you are pleasing your man in bed – that is, he’s getting sex to the level where he’s satisfied with how often you ‘do it’ but also, you have some variety going on – he’s going to be a much better/nicer/happier/kinder kind of guy to have around.

Do you know some women (and it’s actually not that uncommon) refuse to ‘go down’ on their men? They range in their attitudes from thinking it’s unhygienic, it’s dirty and/or just plain not nice. Well, get over yourself and wake up girlfriend. This is the 21st century and we all have needs. The Victorian era is long since past.

And let’s face it, if every man could get what he wants sexually, there’d be no need for prostitutes. That’s what it comes down to. Men seek out instant gratification with ‘working girls’ for what they don’t get at home. And it’s not just perverts and single guys. Fact, there’s quite a number of married guys who get their rocks off with girls off the street, simply and purely because their needs are ‘not’ being met at home. You can protest all you like but it’s true.

So, wouldn’t you rather satisfy your man at home? How good would you feel if you knew that you were the only person on the planet who could satisfy your man in the way you do?

If you pleasure your man with oral sex, this is going to strengthen your relationship and make everything a whole lot easier for ‘both’ of you. In pleasing him, he is going to want to reciprocate, both in the bed and out. And it’s no bad thing for him to want to please you also in return.

The intimate bond you share between the two of you is something that is so unique; you should build on this. Any couple that is fully satisfied in bed, is going to be a much stronger couple out of it. You’ll be happier, more relaxed, more confident and content; he’ll be likewise. Because you’re meeting the needs of each other, there’s no need to go looking elsewhere.

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