by JoeInSouthernCA

Trust In Relationships

By Michael Fehlauer

The fundamental importance of trust in relationships, and the destruction that happens when that trust is violated became a reality to me several years ago. It’s still a vivid memory; ugly and detailed accusations, followed by denials from me. I lied, got caught and our world crashed.

At this point the details aren’t important. What’s important is I had betrayed the trust of my wife, my family and my friends; as well as the trust of thousands who had put their trust in me. So much was lost. My reputation, my credibility, the vision I believe God had for our lives, and not the least of all, trust. The American Heritage Dictionary defines trust as: Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person.

I had compromised my integrity for selfish pleasure! The question is, what is necessary in restoring trust in relationships, more specifically trust in marriage? want to share just a few behaviors that help to re-establish trust. I am in no way an expert; I’m still working all of this out.

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1. Talk straight. Tell the truth and leave the right impression. This involves not only being truthful about the facts, but making sure we leave a truthful impression. In other words, living in the “no spin zone.”

2. Right wrongs. Not every wrong can always be “righted”, but the ones that can, need to be.

3. Own it. Restoring trust in relationships requires both taking responsibility for our actions as well as the consequences. The temptation is to own up to what we did, but not take responsibility for the consequences of our actions. Even if the consequences are unfair, they’re still a result of our failure.

4. Give it plenty of time. Even though it takes only minutes to violate trust, it takes years to rebuild it. It is unfair to those we have hurt to try to speed up the process.

Some will never trust me again, no matter how I live the rest of my life. That’s my fault. But, to live out the rest of our lives in an honorable way has its own eternal rewards.

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by Suzanna

How to Not Be Jealous in a Relationship

Jealousy can kill an otherwise healthy relationship faster than just about anything else that you can think of. The moment you begin to act jealous about what your partner may or may not be up to, you are inviting mistrust into the picture and not many relationships will be able to stand up to this kind of damaging energy. It’s natural to feel a little bit jealous from time to time, after all, we are human. However, when you allow that jealousy to come alive and fuel arguments, accusations, and damage the overall feel of things, it can end a relationship very quickly.

No one wants to be in a relationship with someone and get accused of being unfaithful if they are not doing anything at all. And if those accusations come with more and more frequency, it can cause a person to just decide that it is easier for them to end things than to try to come up with an explanation every time the other person begins to act jealous.

Here’s some advice on how to not act jealous in a relationship:

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1. You have to allow yourself to be vulnerable and accept that it comes with the territory.

Let’s face facts. Anytime that you get into a relationship, you are going to be at least a little bit vulnerable. When you decide to pursue things with someone, they can hurt you and that is something that you need to be able to deal with Accepting the fact that this comes with the territory can allow you to free yourself from being constantly worried about this, which is what jealousy usually boils down to. You have to learn to trust the person that you are with and realize that they can hurt you, but that does not mean that they will.

2. You need to have your own life outside of the relationship.

There is a tendency for people to act jealous a lot more when they feel as though they don’t have much of a life outside of the relationship. When your partner has things going on outside of the relationship and you don’t– of course, that is going to cause you to worry a little bit more. Having your own life and doing your own thing will allow you to be free of feeling jealous just because they are going out somewhere without you.

3. Give your partner a reason to feel connected to you.

You know, the majority of cheating situations don’t occur just because of the sex. More often than not, it has to do with the fact that the cheater feels like they are not getting enough from the relationship that they are in. When you can make your partner feel a strong connection to you, you are a lot less likely to end up being the victim of a cheating situation. And you won’t have as much of a reason to feel insecure and jealous.

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by Malingering

How to Cope in Dating a Jealous Person

Dating a jealous person is one of the worst experiences ever. Should you just succumb to his jealousy and shun your friends? You need them in every step in life. You stand at a risk of ruining your social life. The best thing is to learn how to deal with it when you are dating a jealous person. Love is jealousy so they say but what makes it so strong in some relationships? May be they are naturally jealous and sharing anything they love makes them want to die. I have read about people who murdered their lovers and may be a suspect who the lover seemed to like. This is the ugly side of extreme jealousy. To avoid irreversible scenarios, it is wise to be extra careful while dating a jealous person.

While dating a jealous person, try as much as possible to establish a safe secure base for the relationship. Show the love of your life he is the best person you could ever date therefore he should have no fears. Jealousy is mostly bred by insecurities in a relationship. If you seem to like someone else better than your lover, he/she will be jealous even against their wishes. You might have a soft spot for this other person but to avoid uncalled for jealousy, do not let it be so evident. Off course it will raise eye brows when only one person’s name appears in every of your conversations. Especially if the person in question is of the opposite sex. It leaves a lot to be desired. Avoid anything which can compromise the trust between the two of you.

While dating a jealous person, make a point of inviting them to meet your friends. This dissolves any type of misconception about your friends. The invitation should also depend on the circumstances. If it was a girls night out at your work place, do not drag him along with you. It portrays a bad picture about him and most probably spoil the evening for you. Do not give him the powers to be a control flick. It sucks. If you establish a culture of your lover meeting your friends when he/she can, he should understand when he can’t. You should give him a reason not to be jealous.

Another important point to consider while dating a jealous person is introduction. To do away with the unsaid doubts it is logical to introduce your jealous lover to all the people you talk to. You might think it does not affect a thing but may be it is a major ingredient to the jealousy taking root in your relationship. Lovers are so funny sometimes they defeat any reasoning. Why should someone sulk because you smiled at a stranger? May be you felt happy and you just waved at someone and threw a charming smile their way. It doesn’t hurt to say hello to a stranger too. It shows you are warm and friendly but this might not auger well with your jealous lover. Feign a relationship immediately and say something like “that is our tea girl” or “he works with us”. Little lies don’t hurt. They might save you from the face of jealousy.

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by esagor

Creating Emotionally Safe Relationships

1. Safe relationships involve suspending judgment –I can’t begin to recount the times I’ve jumped to conclusions regarding my judgment of someone’s motives.Even though “what” someone has done is clear, “why” they did it is rarely as obvious. It takes time and patience to discover what is in someone’s heart and what motive was behind their behavior.

2. Safe relationships involve celebrating differences - The difference between you and others is a reason for celebration. The beauty of the distinction between you, your friends, your mate and your family members can be likened to the genius of the different parts of the human body having unique functions, yet contributing to the health of the whole body.

3. Safe relationships involve honoring others – We demonstrate honor to others by respecting their perspective and opinions. When we allow others to express their views and feelings, we are communication the fact that they have value. In the Bible we read, “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” [Romans 12:10]

4. Safe relationships involve being trustworthy – Tom Peters, businessman and author says,” Technique and technology are important, but adding trust is the issue of the decade.” Mahatma Gandhi said, “The moment there is suspicion about a person’s motives, everything he does becomes tainted.”

Trust is a function of both character and competence. Consequently, strive to follow through with your promises – both in word and performance.

5. Safe relationships involve respecting boundaries – Often when people feel threatened or insecure they will erect an emotional wall of protection. Resist the temptation to knock down the wall and force yourself through their boundaries. Instead through patience and understanding, create a climate where the other person feels safe enough to begin to lower the wall of protection on their own and in their own time.

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