Love symbols serve us on many occasions, including Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, weddings, engagements and birthdays. They normally are visual aid that depict what is otherwise a non-visual emotion and portray feelings of love in a way that make it easier to communicate them to others.
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Love Symbols and their Association with Valentines Day

The day that is observed for the beautiful feelings and emotions associated with love is Valentines day. There are many symbols and signs that are associated with the myriad emotions that can be called love. Thus, these various valentine symbols have automatically come to be associated with Valentine’s day. Some of these are:-

Apple – Since time immemorial, this fruit has been linked to beauty, fertility and consequently with love. It has been widely talked about and mentioned in literature relative to love. Thus, it has found a place in our thoughts as a symbol of love and as a symbol of Valentines day too.

Cupid – This symbol has origins in the Greek mythology. Cupid is understood to be the son of Venus, the love goddess. It is believed that when someone gets hit by a Cupid’s arrow they fall in love with the person they have met right then. Cupid is also shown with a blindfold, which is a conveys the message of love being blind.

Heart and Arrow – Heart has been forever understood to be correlated with love. Phrases like ‘my heart beats for you’ and ‘you have broken my heart’ make it clear that a person in love ‘thinks’ from his heart. Also, the picture of a heart pierced with an arrow is another symbol of feelings that define love. It is consequently understood to be one of the symbols of valentines day.

Rose – Flowers are a representative of many emotions known to man. And, although there are many flowers that are exchanged between people who want to express their love for each other, Rose is the one most famously known as the symbol of love. The colors of Rose define the feelings that are to be conveyed. For example, Red Rose is for love, Pink for attraction and Yellow for friendship.

Love Birds and Doves – Birds like Love Birds and Doves are always found in pairs, that is a reason for their being considered symbols of love. In pairs, these birds represent lovers that are inseparable. In fact Love Birds find their mates in spring time, somewhere around Valentine’s day and leave their mates only when they die. Dove also symbolizes purity and innocence in love.

Chocolates – Chocolates are representative of love, romance and sensuousness. People in love gift each other chocolates and it is especially popular as a Valentines day gifts. Though chocolates need not be representative of romance only, but they definitely are a symbol of love in all its forms.

Love Knots – The love knot is made of two intertwining overhand knots, symbolising intertwined lovers. It is used in Valentine’s day gifts like chains and jewelry. Its beauty lies in its simplicity. Another form of love knots are Celtic love knots, which symbolise everlasting love as they have no beginning and no end.

X – This has long been identified as the symbol of a kiss and has been famously used to show affection for a loved one. People use this sign in love letters and cards to express their love and send across kisses without actually putting the feeling in words.

Laces and Ribbons – These have been used as a symbol of love, trust and confidence in your loved one. People have used laces and ribbons to remember their love who is physically away from them. These are also used as an accompaniment with Valentine day gifts.

Being apart in a long distance relationship will often result in a lot of stress and anxiety that not only can be avoided but, if approached the right way, can actually “make the heart grow fonder”.

With the advantage of modern technology that includes video connections on computers and telephones, messaging facilities on cell phones and online shopping and delivery, there are many aids to long distance relationships that modern couple can enjoy which were simply unheard of in the days of our not so distant ancestors.

Of special concern to many is the possibility that our partner will be exposed to overwhelming temptations, and even cheat, while they are away from us. If this is a minor concern, frequent contact with messaging, telephone calls and video link will be very helpful in helping to sustain and build a loving relationship. When you view the separation with a sense of calm rather than alarm, there are many tools available to help sustain the relationship.

If you are finding the separation to be especially stressful, it is important to understand that the anxiety being experienced has its origins in perception and arises from the way you look at the world. That is, you are responding to thoughts and expectations that tour partner may be cheating on you or is simply losing interest.

This does not mean that they are behaving badly or that their feelings are cooling. It indicates that you are allowing negative thoughts to evoke negative feelings. Invariably, decisions and choices that we make when we are feeling anxious, angry, resentful, hurt, sad, lonely, and the like, will point us in a direction that is away from what we really want.

For instance, if we are resentful towards an absent partner, we are tempted to be surly, cool, distant, suspicious and critical. Acting in this way towards another stirs resentment in the one on the receiving end of our ire.

Do they feel more loving when being treated this way? More likely they are inclined to retaliate, in turn causing you to feel more resentful!

Notice that what caused us to feel resentment in the first place were our perceptions of the situation. The thoughts we entertained may have been based on little more than our own insecurities and other attitudes and expectations that we hold which shape our perception of the world.

The ideas we accept mold the way we see events and the way we interpret what we see. If we see a rosy picture, we feel joyous and expect a happy outcome. If our view is a gloomy one, our prospects also appear dark and we feel anxious and threatened.

Anxiety in a long distance relationship is something we CAN control and overcome when we understand the way it works and what can be done about it. The flow on benefit is that it helps us in all sorts of ways and not only when we are apart from our loved ones. We also learn how to create an infinitely better world for ourselves and feel more in control of our lives.