Being apart in a long distance relationship will often result in a lot of stress and anxiety that not only can be avoided but, if approached the right way, can actually “make the heart grow fonder”.

With the advantage of modern technology that includes video connections on computers and telephones, messaging facilities on cell phones and online shopping and delivery, there are many aids to long distance relationships that modern couple can enjoy which were simply unheard of in the days of our not so distant ancestors.

Of special concern to many is the possibility that our partner will be exposed to overwhelming temptations, and even cheat, while they are away from us. If this is a minor concern, frequent contact with messaging, telephone calls and video link will be very helpful in helping to sustain and build a loving relationship. When you view the separation with a sense of calm rather than alarm, there are many tools available to help sustain the relationship.

If you are finding the separation to be especially stressful, it is important to understand that the anxiety being experienced has its origins in perception and arises from the way you look at the world. That is, you are responding to thoughts and expectations that tour partner may be cheating on you or is simply losing interest.

This does not mean that they are behaving badly or that their feelings are cooling. It indicates that you are allowing negative thoughts to evoke negative feelings. Invariably, decisions and choices that we make when we are feeling anxious, angry, resentful, hurt, sad, lonely, and the like, will point us in a direction that is away from what we really want.

For instance, if we are resentful towards an absent partner, we are tempted to be surly, cool, distant, suspicious and critical. Acting in this way towards another stirs resentment in the one on the receiving end of our ire.

Do they feel more loving when being treated this way? More likely they are inclined to retaliate, in turn causing you to feel more resentful!

Notice that what caused us to feel resentment in the first place were our perceptions of the situation. The thoughts we entertained may have been based on little more than our own insecurities and other attitudes and expectations that we hold which shape our perception of the world.

The ideas we accept mold the way we see events and the way we interpret what we see. If we see a rosy picture, we feel joyous and expect a happy outcome. If our view is a gloomy one, our prospects also appear dark and we feel anxious and threatened.

Anxiety in a long distance relationship is something we CAN control and overcome when we understand the way it works and what can be done about it. The flow on benefit is that it helps us in all sorts of ways and not only when we are apart from our loved ones. We also learn how to create an infinitely better world for ourselves and feel more in control of our lives.

A lot of us have experienced the pain of a breakup or a divorce.  When a love relationship ends, we may feel like a failure at relationships and might be tempted to give up hope that we may ever fall in love again.  However, to feel hopeless and sorry for yourself often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

“Negative thoughts are extremely destructive,” explained Ulrike Eitel, a professional matchmaker and President & CEO of Sterling Introductions, a nationwide upscale matchmaking service, based in Atlanta, Georgia.  “If you tell yourself that you are a failure at relationships, your brain will accept these thoughts as reality and your next attempt at finding love may be doomed from the start.”

“At Sterling Introductions, many of our members have experienced painful divorces and through our exclusive matchmaking service, we help them to move on in their dating and love life,” said Eitel.  “To work with a professional matchmaker who truly listens and provides relationship coaching as part of the service, is instrumental in regaining hope and confidence.”

“Don’t consider your time alone as wasted,” advises Eitel.  “Work on improving yourself, so you’ll be an irresistible catch for a loving partner.  Giving up guarantees failure.  You have got to keep the faith and put yourself “out there” emotionally.  If you want to dramatically increase your chances of “winning” a wonderful partner, start by deciding to never give up.”

“Many of our members join Sterling Introductions to work with a professional matchmaker after they have allowed themselves to heal from a breakup or divorce, and because they have experienced soul searching and emotional growth, their next relationship will be the most fulfilling of their lives,” said Eitel.

To learn more about Sterling Introductions upscale matchmaking service, call 404-419-2280 or visit the website at www.sterlingintroductions.com