Reader Question  (comments welcome):

I’m writing a novel at the moment, and as in most novels, my two main characters have a romantic relationship.

I’m just wondering what makes a good romantic relationship? It won’t be a typical dating one (I hate those anyway) because the novel is set in the middle of a huge war, so I’m just looking for hints&tips on how to make a decent romance.

It’s not a romance novel in the slightest by the way. The main focus is the war, this is just a subplot.

Oh, and the guy is 17 and the girl is 24.

This always seems to be the biggest challenge for everyone.  Get the person you are in love with or infatuated with to love you just the same.  I am about to make a lot of self proclaim expert very upset now as the info I am about to share with you, the experts would charge you $100’s of dollars.  Read, enjoy and good luck.

First, let get’s to know this guy. Is he on Facebook, My Space?  Go look at his bio and find out what he likes.  What does he do on his spare time?  Typically, they will list great info for you to learn like music, sports, movies etc.

Second, are you his type physically? Does he prefer blondes, brunettes etc.  A man will always fall for your looks before he falls in love with you.  Now because you may not be his types to the letter, a lot of men have low self esteem when it comes to women. So a man would almost rather get hit by a truck then to hear the sound of rejection by a woman.

Next, somehow, you must start some kind of communication with him.  Somehow, when you see him, you have to get on a list of HI and BYE conversation.  A way to that would be if you see someone you know conversing, go join them, by doing that, the person you know will introduce you and there you go, you have your IN.

The next time you talk to him in a conversation setting.  Take the conversation towards the internet and ask him if he has instant messaging.  This could be a great tool for you later.

Later on as you get to know him more, start doing things that stands out a little more.  Like he may need help with a task he needs to accomplish or a ride somewhere.  Casually, offer to help.  Don’t look needy, very important, men do not like needy.  Find out what he does, is he part of any social group or does he play sports.  Be there to support him so he knows you like him.

Most men like women who keep it real.  So just be who you are, don’t act you way into a relationship because I can almost guarantee you, it won’t last long and all your effort will go to waste.

If you can’t figure out if he likes you or not, one thing I can tell you being a man myself is that most man wants what they can’t get.  If he thinks he can’t get you to go out with him, that’s when he will really want to be with you so do what you are comfortable with to make him want you.  That may be just flirting with somebody else in front of him or even go out on a date with someone he knows.

Being on the other side, I know for a fact that these tips really work.  I hope they help you get what you want.  http://www.squidoo.com/overcoming-low-self-esteem-tips has a lot of great tools to help you get the man of your dreams.  Hope these tips helped you if you can’t get the man of your dreams to fall in love with you, than there is a good chance he did not deserve you.

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How many times do men ask their friends how do I get my ex girlfriend back?  Honestly, I thought it was a woman’s prerogative to change her mind.  Some men just don’t know when they are onto a good thing and their reasons for ending relationships border on the ridiculous.

My male friends have finished with girls for:

1) wearing the wrong type of shoes!
2) Her mother
3) The new barmaid at his favorite bar smiled at him.

Now ok I know that a pretty face can turn any man’s head and there is the dreaded notion that a woman may turn into her mother but come on guys – the wrong type of shoes?  If women didn’t date men because of the clothes they were wearing the human race would have died out long ago.  Behind every well dressed man is a good woman- in early life his mother and later his wife!

I always tell my men friends that they need to make a list before they break up with their partners.  On one side of the list, you put her good points.  Do you find her interesting? Does she look after you?  Does she cook for you?  Does she laugh at your jokes?  Are you attracted to her?

On the other side of the list, they can put the things that wind them up.  Ok she may nag at little too much but then if you put the toilet seat down she might stop.  She may not want more than a cuddle every evening but five times a week doesn’t mean that she isn’t caring enough.

Writing the good and bad points of your life together down on paper may seem like a cold approach but it is a very practical way of seeing what a great relationship you do/did have. You need to compare the two lists and decide if you should be breaking up with this woman. If you are doing it after the event, it also helps to clarify if you made the right decision to finish the relationship. Sometimes we regret breaking up as we end up feeling lonely.  But loneliness is not a reason to get back together.

If you have dumped the lady in your life but now know it was the wrong decision you need to act fast.  Great life partners do not grow on trees.  She has shown that she will put up with you in all your glory – how many women would be mad enough to do that?

Take a leaf out Richard Gere’s book and put some romance back into her life.  Send her flowers – not a bunch of red roses but some of her favorites.  Send her a handwritten letter telling her how much you love her and miss her.  Book her favorite restaurant and treat her to a night out.  In short, you need to treat her just like the princess you believe her to be and assuming you are not a complete disgrace, you won’t have ask how to get my ex girlfriend back.

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Easily the best way to gain more Love and Harmony in your relationships is to know this life-changing material.

Read the information on this page before it’s too late:

Gain More Love and Harmony – Now!

A lot of us have experienced the pain of a breakup or a divorce.  When a love relationship ends, we may feel like a failure at relationships and might be tempted to give up hope that we may ever fall in love again.  However, to feel hopeless and sorry for yourself often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

“Negative thoughts are extremely destructive,” explained Ulrike Eitel, a professional matchmaker and President & CEO of Sterling Introductions, a nationwide upscale matchmaking service, based in Atlanta, Georgia.  “If you tell yourself that you are a failure at relationships, your brain will accept these thoughts as reality and your next attempt at finding love may be doomed from the start.”

“At Sterling Introductions, many of our members have experienced painful divorces and through our exclusive matchmaking service, we help them to move on in their dating and love life,” said Eitel.  “To work with a professional matchmaker who truly listens and provides relationship coaching as part of the service, is instrumental in regaining hope and confidence.”

“Don’t consider your time alone as wasted,” advises Eitel.  “Work on improving yourself, so you’ll be an irresistible catch for a loving partner.  Giving up guarantees failure.  You have got to keep the faith and put yourself “out there” emotionally.  If you want to dramatically increase your chances of “winning” a wonderful partner, start by deciding to never give up.”

“Many of our members join Sterling Introductions to work with a professional matchmaker after they have allowed themselves to heal from a breakup or divorce, and because they have experienced soul searching and emotional growth, their next relationship will be the most fulfilling of their lives,” said Eitel.

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