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I Want And Need For My Husband To Love Me Again: Tips And Strategies For Wives Whose Husbands Claim To No Longer Love Them

Many of the wives who contact me tell me that their husband no longer loves them. Most all of them are looking for a way to change this. I often hear comments like: “I need for him to love me again. What can or should I do?” Or, “I want so much for my husband to love me again, but I’m not sure how to make this happen because he no longer listens to or responds to me.”

Most of these wives suspect that they are fighting an uphill battle. Back when their husband’s were fully invested in the relationship and listening to them, things may have been different. But now that everything’s changed, it’s going to take a very carefully calculated (and executed) plan to regain their husband’s love.

Much of the time, these suspicions are correct because the husband is already resistant to much of what the wife says. He’s learned to tune her out or to question the sincerity of any thing that she says or does (even if the message is an important and sincere one.) This just isn’t fair, but it’s the way that things have become.

The following article is meant for the wives who are sincere in trying to get their husbands to love them again. Below, I’ll offer some tips and insights that I wish I would’ve had when I was trying to get my own husband’s affection back.

Understanding That You Can’t “Make” Someone Love You Again, But You Can Create The Situation That Makes Them Want To: The emails that I receive often ask me for ways to “make” or “get” a husband to love the wife again. And, this is understandable. Because it’s usually clear to the wives that the husband’s feelings are too far gone for them to just return on their own. But, the mistake that they often make is in coming on too strong or allowing for the husband to think that they are going to attempt to change his mind by force or manipulation.

No one wants to believe that they can or will be manipulated, especially when it comes to their own feelings. So, if and when your husband suspects that this is what you are trying to do, it’s a safe bet that he’s going to do everything in his power to keep this from happening. He might limit his access to you. He might just tune you out. Or he might retreat inside himself even further.

These are the things that you absolutely can not afford to let happen. If they do, this just makes the situation that much more difficult to overcome. So, if this has been your strategy, I’d ask you to consider trying something else. I have seen these scenarios play out countless times, and I can tell you that when wives try to “make” their husband’s love them, the husbands usually love them even less as a result. And, even if the wives are able to accomplish their goal, the husband is usually so resentful of the manipulation that the victory is short lived. And, once he eventually pulls back again, he’s even more resistant to your strategies because he’s seen this play out before.

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Knowing That Your Husband’s Claim That He No Longer Loves You Might Not Be Entirely Accurate: Unfortunately, many wives in this position take their husband’s insistence that he no longer loves them at face value. The words are so hurtful and jarring that most people never think to question them or to evaluate them. But, it’s no coincidence that you’ll often hear these words in times of high stress or in the heat of the moment.

And unfortunately, this is the thing that wives focus on the most. Rather than worrying more about improving the relationship so that the loving feelings just naturally come out of it, the wives hyper focus on if the husband is starting to love them again and if so, by how much? This short sightedness can really come back to haunt you and came keep you from getting what you want. It also is more likely to contribute to your participating in desperate and negative behaviors that usually turn husband’s off that much more. Sometimes, the wives come on too strong, they over compensate, and they appear clingy or desperate.

The irony is that much of the time, the love is still there, but it’s buried underneath neglect, disappointment, and the increasingly stressful circumstances in which most of us live. Truly understanding this can sometimes mean that you’re willing to try a less desperate and unattractive strategy (which is more likely to work.)

Ways To Encourage Your Husband To Love You Again: If you remember nothing else from what you’ve read here, please remember this. Husbands will generally see the people and things that elicit negative feelings in them as just as negative as their feelings. As the result, they will want to distance themselves from those things. And if you’re showing emotions like fear, desperation, and manipulation, then you’re actually encouraging him to distance himself from you.

But, if instead you focus on the positive emotions like understanding, validation and empathy, then you are setting it up so that your husband will eventually move toward you. If you can make your husband feel understood and validated while also making him believe that his happiness is the most important thing to you, you might be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.

Many wives make the grave mistake on focusing on the outcome (getting him to love you again) and not focusing enough on the process (improving the relationship between you so that he feels those loving emotions once again.) It’s so important to understand what your husband wants and then to provide it. Often when I tell wives this, they get frustrated and tell me that they aren’t entirely sure what their husband wants.

I can share with you what husband’s in this situation frequently tell me. They often tell me that they feel pressured, unappreciated, unheard, and like a conquest. They often say that the spark is gone because the marriage went cold. What the truly want is the woman and the relationship that made them feel positive emotions.

But, unfortunately, many wives focus on the fear rather than the relationship. So, they will try to overcompensate by laying the emotion on so thick that insincerity is the most logical conclusion. The more your husband suspects that he’s being manipulated, the harder your job becomes.

Always remember that your husband is looking for happiness and peace of mind. He’s ultimately going to go with the situation that he perceives is going to make him happy. That’s why it’s absolutely vital that he believes that this is precisely what you genuinely want for him. Sometimes, you may need to tell him that after thinking about it, you’ve decided that what you really want is for the two of you to be happy, even if this means that you’re happy separately.

Now, we both know that you don’t really want this, but if you can pull this off, you’ll often get more access to and attention from your husband. And once this happens, you want to show him that attentive and light hearted woman that he feel in love with, the one who didn’t make demands or constantly ask questions or apply pressure. He wants to feel at ease if your presence again. So, it’s vital that you place your focus on improving the relationship and understand that, as the result, the loving feelings almost always follow.

I absolutely understand where you are right now. A couple of years ago, my husband flat out told me he didn’t love me anymore. But, eventually, it dawned on me that the tactics I was using to get him to love me again were not working. Luckily, I was able to change course and return the intimacy and affection. You can read a very personal story on my blog at http://isavedmymarriage.com/

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Question by Helen: How much detail should I tell my husband about what happened?
I love my husband very much but I made a mistake with another man. I know I hurt my marriage and my dear husband but we are working to recover our relationship. My problem is that my husband keeps asking the details of what happened. We have been to two counselors in the last 8 months and each has said the opposite. One says I should answer any question he has as a path to his healing. Another says I should never answer questions about such details. Has anyone else dealt with this? Should I answer his questions or keep those out of the conversation?

Best answer:

Answer by Em
I wouldn’t give him the details. Honestly, he “wants” to know them- but in reality, he doesn’t want to either- and after knowing them, he’ll wish he didn’t.

What do you think? Answer below!

Perhaps one of the most damaging incidents in a relationship – requiring action to save a marriage – is the infidelity of one partner. As both invest trust in their bond, to discover the other did not respect this can be extremely harmful to the long-term prospects of the relationship. It need not end this way. Here are some ideas that may hep.

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Infidelity – How to Save A Marriage After Infidelity

Some people claim that an affair should always end a relationship. Yes, of all the things that can tear apart a marriage, infidelity is one of the biggest reasons. Extramarital affairs are a betrayal of all the things that marriage is supposed to be about. A marriage is supposed to be a union of two lives, two people bonded together for a lifetime and breaking that bond is one of the most difficult things to overcome.

But I believe that even after the affair every relationship is savable if both parties really want to work on it.  It takes two to make it work and not only one can do it so you both have to be in agreement to work on your relationship together, otherwise you are wasting life.

In a marriage, infidelity isn’t just what happens when somebody begins a physical relationship outside of the marriage. Infidelity can also be emotional, when one of the partners in a marriage begins to share their life with someone outside the marriage.

This is known as emotional infidelity, and it has become an even more serious problem in the last few decades. One of the reasons for this is because workplaces, one of our prime social engagements in modern times, have become increasingly more mixed.

In addition to that it is even easier to communicate with people on the sly. Instant messaging and texting, emails have all made it easier to bond with people that you shouldn’t be bonding with. While this isn’t the cause of emotional infidelity, it is a factor.

At the same time, physical infidelity has also become easier. We spend more time apart than we once did, and it is not at all uncommon to spend the majority of time at work, which gives us a very handy excuse when we make the decision to cheat in our marriage. Infidelity is a choice, make no mistake about that.

But the thing to remember is that all of these things are excuses and opportunities, not reasons. Changing the excuses won’t change the marriage, won’t solve anything. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t overcome cheating in marriage. Infidelity is a big problem, but it is not an insurmountable one.

The very first thing you need to do is to figure out what went wrong in your marriage. Infidelity isn’t something that happens in a vacuum; there is always a reason when things like that happen. Something has broken in your relationship and it needs to be fixed in order to get past the cheating.

You need to make sure that you don’t blame the other person. Yes, they cheated on you. No, it wasn’t your fault. But you need to move past it, because playing the blame game will only delay the kind of emotional healing that needs to take place. You need to, as best you can, put it all behind you.

Once you’ve found out why and began work on it, you need to reestablish the trust in the marriage. “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships” – Stephen R. Covey

Infidelity destroys trust, and it’s going to be difficult after the affair to repair what was been broken. You need to work on rebuilding the trust. Don’t expect it to happen right away, and don’t expect it to be easy.

Infidelity is terrible, but every relationship can be repaired. If you can follow these steps, you can save your marriage. You just need to be willing to find the advice and the help you need to repair your relationship.

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Use This Spell to Get Back With Your Ex Instead Of Free Magic Love Spells

While it may seem almost effortless to perform magical acts, learning the process is not easy. If you would like to get back with your ex, you do not have to train as a magician. However, there are special ways through which you can cast free love spells that are just as magical.

While many people go to great lengths to learn free magic love spells that they can cast to restore their broken relationships, you don’t have to do this. You will need a spell all right, but of a different nature. The spell you need to cast is called … apology!

An apology is a powerful tool in mending a broken relationship. The trick is to know how to craft a magical apology. The problem is that many people tend to apologize in a way that does not cast any magic spell at all. That is why it is very important for you to learn how to make a truly magical apology. Here are some things you should take into consideration.

Write it down

If you want your apology to have great impact, you should write it down – on paper. Don’t try to use some kind of electronic device in this process. Write your apology down with your own handwriting. This will give it a uniquely personal touch that your ex is bound to take note of, particularly in today’s world where people largely rely on such things as email. You will thus deliver an apology that stands out.

Choose your words well

Getting the attention of your ex is a good first step. However, you can easily make things worse when you then use inappropriate words. This is another area where writing your apology down gives you an upper hand. You will be able to take your time to choose your words with great care in order to make the correct impact. You will also have time to review your apology and make any necessary corrections. Choose words that will clearly portray your deep sorrow for your mistake.

Do not apportion blame

This brings us to another important aspect of a magical apology – it does not pass any blame. If you do not take full responsibility for your actions, then it means that you are not truly apologetic.

A Powerful apology must show how sincere you really are with what you are stating.

Keep it short

Your letter of apology should be very concise. You will increase your chances of making a blunder if you make a long apology.

Within this short apology, you should make it plain that you accept that you have really broken up. You should then take responsibility for the break-up. At last, mention the positive impact the break-up has had on you without being too specific.

So, instead of using a free magic love spell this powerful apology may be enough to help you win back a love you once lost.

A powerful apology will cast a spell that will help you to get back with your ex. You will then need a plan on how to restore your relationship and make it stronger. You will learn a lot more when you visit The Magic of Making Up or http://themagicofmakingup.com These resources will teach you how to make an effective plan.

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Use Your Unconscious Mind To Resolve Relationship Problems

Most people in trying to solve a problem concentrate on the problem rather than its solution. This is a mistake as this way of thinking locks you into the problem making you feel helpless and unable to deal with it.

In reality this is far from the case. Your unconscious mind the 90% of the mind that we are not usually aware of has great problem solving capabilities. Once you have the know how you can use these at will.

To gain help from the unconscious mind we must think of the solution not the problem. It happens like this. The smoker who wants to quit thinks “I must stop smoking” but his unconscious mind can’t process a negative so it hears and acts upon the word “smoking”. This causes him to continue smoking and possibly to even smoke more.

How does this relate to dating, Karen thinks, “I wish Keith and I weren’t always arguing” The emphasize is on arguing which is what she is concentrating on making it likely to happen even more. She needs to think of and mentally picture the situation that she actually wants, herself and Keith enjoying each other’s company.

Once Karen does this its likely that over the next few hours and days she will think of ways to make time spent with Keith pleasant and argument free. She can help along this process by writing down as many possible solutions as she can think of to the problem of having arguments with Keith.

The more she can be creative and think out of the box the more likely she is to find a workable solution. It’s important to generate as many ideas as possible for two reasons. 1/ Problems are often solved by using a combination of ideas and techniques rather than just one. 2/ Once Karen has her ideas she will turn them into “action steps” and act on them.

If she comes up with only one or two ideas to turn into action steps she may not act on any of them. If she comes up with fifteen there is a good chance that she will act on five. This way she increases the likelihood of taking action to bring about a solution.

Once Karen has written down her whole list of potential solutions she will examine each one in turn and decide which one solution or combination of solutions is most likely to work best for her. She will then turn her solution into an action step or series of steps.

She will then begin to solve the problem. It’s important to start putting the plan into action now rather than waiting until tomorrow or next week. By taking action Karen puts herself in control of the situation.

Although Karen can’t control Keith’s behaviour she can control her responses to it. By doing so she is able to move herself and Keith forward to achieving the goal of enjoying each other’s company.

Karen will also be prepared to adapt her solution as the situation unfolds. She will show self-reliance and flexibility in the way that she deals with her relationship problem. These qualities will almost certainly be rewarded. Most importantly she will concentrate on the solution not the problem.

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Cheating husbands leave many signs and with a bit of detective work, a wife can catch her husband with sold proof. Many wives make the mistake of hiring an expensive detective or purchasing pricey spy equipment. However, if you are aware of some of the signs of a cheating husband and know your husband’s behavior and habits well, you simply need to follow your gut instinct and employ some of the top 10 ways of how to catch a cheating husband. Most of all, be patient. Give yourself 3-4 weeks of spying time.

Pay close attention to small details and use all your senses so you don’t miss a sign of a cheating husband. Make sure you keep a log book of descriptions, dates and times of all the clues you discover. If you find a clue, make a copy of it if possible. NEVER accuse him of an affair unless you have concrete proof he was cheating because you may have to use this proof in a court of law should you pursue divorce.

If you don’t have solid proof, many cheating men lie and make up stories or will call you crazy. Plan your confrontation out in your mind so you will be prepared and armed with facts and evidence. If you have children, make sure they are in a safe, protected place. In addition, don’t become a cheating wife to get revenge. It only causes more problems and will be used against you.

1. Set a trap. Cheating husbands usually cheat when their wife is out of town. Tell your husband that you are leaving for a couple of days and then wait, listen and watch. Place a recording surveillance device in your bedroom or near the phone and then listen. Park in a friend’s car with a hat and sunglasses on and follow his car or wait for someone to come to the house.

Keep a camera, binoculars and a cell phone with you. Cheating husbands usually take their affair out for dinner and a rendezvous while you are gone. Give your cheating husband lots of space to make a mistake. Your husband will leave cheating signs unknowingly.

Make sure you are “busy” or out of the house a lot while you are investigating. Take a long nap under your bed at lunch or in the evening or place a long recording digital tape recorder which is voice activated under the bed. This wouldn’t work if you have children or a dog.

2. Watch his cell phone. A sign of a cheating husband can be if he protects his cell phone with a password, unexpectedly ask to borrow his cell phone to make an important call. Then make a fake call, pressing as many buttons of his call log as possible to note any strange calls. Go to bathroom with phone if at all possible.

Watch whether his cell phone is always turned off when with you or whether he takes unusually long to phone you back. Note the times, dates and length of any suspicious calls. Press the re-dial on the phone or *69. This is an effective way to find out who they’ve been calling.

3. Place a long-recording digital tape recorder under your cheating husband’s car seat every morning and then listen to it when you are alone. Please check the laws in your city or state to make sure it is legal to record someone in your car if they are borrowing it. The same goes for a GPS tracking device which tracks everywhere your husband’s car goes. GPS tracking devices are now made the size of a pack of chewing gum so they are easy to hide.

4. Monitor your husband’s computer usage. Does he use the computer late at night or for an unusual amount of time? Cheating husbands frequently utilize free email services such as hotmail, msn, yahoo, gmail, hushmail, etc… Check his internet web browser history for warning signs. If you suspect your husband is cheating, you can install a keystroke logger which will log every keystroke your husband types, including his passwords. There are many good ones currently for sale.

5. A sign of a cheating husband could be if he is frequenting any dating sites, create a fake profile on-line of someone you think your husband would be attracted to and then start flirting. Many wives have successfully used this technique.

6. Be careful of your cheating husband’s close friends who may cover for him because of loyalty feelings. Even if they don’t approve of your husband’s cheating ways, they may still cover for his cheating by providing an alibi for him.

7. Set booby traps in your house. If you think your cheating husband may be bringing someone into your home while you are traveling or out, set some traps. Put on a clean set of sheets and then place a crumb on the bedspread. Make sure that a dog or cat don’t move it. Then check to see if the crumb is still in the same place after your return.

8. Get your girlfriend’s to help. Sign up a willing acquaintance or girlfriend to hit on your husband at a pre-determined location to see if he will bite. It is helpful if she carries a tape recorder in her purse so you may hear him.

9. Monitor your husband’s driving habits for a month. Watch for increase in gas receipts and monitor the car’s odometer to see if there are extra unexplained miles on the car. Monitor the time he leaves for work and the time he comes home. You should be able to establish a pattern by keeping a calendar and noting the times. If your husband claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify his overtime.

If your husband explains a late return home as a result of having to drive out of town on business, yet the mileage on the car indicates less than ten miles driven, you’ll have caught your cheating husband in a lie which may be due to his adultery.

10. Paper signs of a cheating husband can include unexplained receipts, more frequent ATM withdrawals, and unexplained credit card charges. Note any strange dates and times. Is there a restaurant charge when he should have been at work? Check his business deductions if possible.

If you have tried some of the above tips on how to catch a cheating husband and have been unsuccessful, try playing your poker face. Pretend like you know something and give him 24 hours to come clean or else… However, only resort to this after you have tried all other means because if you accuse him, your husband will know you are on to him, deny any wrong doing and cover his cheating tracks better next time.

Breaking up with your partner is very hard to deal with, in most cases. If you desperately miss you ex and are willing to do anything to get him/her back, here are 5 effective psychological tricks you can use to make them chase after you:

1. Don’t look devastated: you should be strong, no matter how much you are hurting inside. You should avoid begging and try to practice self control. Act as if you are completely fine with their decision to leave. This will undermine their self-esteem and make them wonder if they truly want to end the relationship.
2. Take a break from your ex: avoid all contact. Allow him/her time to miss you and make them realize that their life is empty without you.
3. Feel good about yourself: cultivate new interests, make new friends and try to become better in every way. Try getting a new haircut and join the gym to lose some pounds and get fit. If it’s possible, go on a trip. This will keep you busy and will help you take your mind off your ex.
4. Use jealousy as your weapon: send them an SMS asking “what time should we meet tomorrow?” When you realize “your mistake” apologize by saying that the message was intended for someone else. This will make them extremely jealous, because they will think that you have found a new love.
5. Show up with a new date: go to places where you will meet your ex-partner with someone else. Try to look your best. Act extremely happy. Make them realize that you have moved on with your life. If he/she is interested they will have to make their move or they risk losing you forever. This tactic is extremely powerful, because it will reveal their true feelings for you.

Don’t be afraid to use these tactics, especially if you are the one who got dumped. They may seem harsh, but they are extremely effective!

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Nothing is more difficult to accept than seeing your loved one in the arms of someone else. When you catch your partner cheating, it almost seems as if your world has come to an end. Your automatic reaction would be to reject the other person and immediately call it quits.

Although there are a lot of pain and trust issues involved in the object of cheating, there is still a way to rectify a relationship even after you realized that you have been betrayed by the one you love. If you want to know how to fix a relationship after cheating, you just need to follow these simple steps.

1. If you were the one who cheated, the first thing that you need to do is to apologize. Obviously, you made a mistake and will take a lot of time and effort for you to gain your partner’s trust back. But now is not the time to be hesitant. You need to show that person that you are willing to correct your mistakes and earn their trust back.
2. If you got cheated on, do not immediately put all the blame on your partner. It may be extremely difficult and excruciating to go through self-assessment right now, but think about it. A lot of times, a person cheats because he/she feels as if they are no longer loved or needed. They seek the attention of other people in hopes of finding the affection that they might have not found in you.
3. Forgive and forget. Start over a new leaf and learn to love and understand each other better.

Can I really fix a relationship after cheating? YES! Just follow the system that shows you exactly what you must NEVER EVER do and exactly what you SHOULD do after a break up and how to go about fixing a broken relationship.

Break ups are a part of life. They happen to the best of us and leave a stinging sensation in our hearts until most people simply move on and carry on with their lives.

What happens though, if you are convinced you have found your true love or did not even have time to reach that conclusion? You want to get your ex back, you miss her, and are willing to put forth some work to get her back into your arms again. If this directly applies to you, then congratulations, you are one of the few people out there willing to fight for what is yours.

You will also be happy to know that over 90% of all break ups have the possibility of being reversed if you know what to do to get your ex back. Below I have outlined some great tips on how to do just that.

The very first thing in learning how to get back together with your ex is to determine for what reason you broke up in tn the first place. Think back as to what exactly caused you guys to go your separate ways, it could be one specific, a multitude of events, or even some sort of behavior or bad habit that your ex did not want to deal with anymore. Can you think about that specific bit of information? Good, keep that in mind and let us move on.

You can not appear needy or miserable. The most common mistake when trying to get your ex back is telling their ex how you can not live without them. To be frank, there is no point in that statement so make sure you stay strong and confident and know that in the back of your mind you have a plan of action in mind that will bring your ex back to your arms for good.

On that same note, never try to make you ex jealous. It is probably the worse thing you can do in this situation. What you want to do is boost their confidence without sounding needy. Express to them how compatible you guys where and how no one could ever offer you what they offered.

If they are seeing some one else, do not be upset, simply try a little harder. Seriously, getting your ex back is not rocket science you just need to make sure you are behaving correctly and following a detailed plan proven to work.

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My hair is messy and when you look at me you might think I look rather irresponsible. You can categorize me as many different personality types, but for the most part people stick me in either the artistic category or the rebellious bad boy category. That means that when they shove me into such a category they are making judgments about me that aren’t true.

I am not irresponsible. In fact, I am much more responsible than most people I know. I am rebellious with an artistic nature but I am not in any way shape or form a “bad boy.” Women find me very attentive, both in and out of bed. What’s my point? That women are going to judge you and they are going to be wrong.

Women (just as often as men) make judgments based on appearance and what we do for a living more often than how we conduct ourselves until they reach a particular level of intimacy with us.

They make assumptions about how well we might please them in the kitchen as well as in the bedroom and sometimes they are spot on and others times they are about as far from the horse’s rear end as they are making of themselves. It happens and we can’t control it. What we can do, however, is refuse to play into their judgments and maintain our personalities despite their obvious disappointment.

I met a woman once who assumed (based on my looks) that I would not be able to please her. She called me up about a month later and asked if my invitation was still open to take her out? It turns out that she knew a woman that I had been very intimate with and she had a conversation with her about me and realized she had made a mistake. When I found this out, I stopped seeing her not because she made a judgment, but because she lied about her reasons for wanting to see me again as well as those for not wanting to date me in the first place.

We live in a world filled with judgment and we each have to decide exactly how much of it we can allow into our lives. In some cases, allowing any into our lives is hurtful but unavoidable. One of my friends is forever having to explain that he is not gay because he is strikingly thin and has shaggy hair.

When women judge you by your appearance or your job, you have to be prepared to know how you want to respond. You can either call them on it, tell them that they are wrong, or you can change your behavior to match their assumptions. Doing the latter turns you into a liar. You can get plenty of women without lying and those women are going to be a way better experience for you. Don’t let judgment based on you categorical stereotype determine how you are going to act. You are not made up of a stereotype. You are made up of content. How you choose to display that content is a personal choice.

You can dress yourself up any way you want to. You can walk out of your house every single day acting like you are the player of the century or you can go for that entire metro-sexual look if it pleases you. You can cover up your insecurities with loud and outrageous vehicles and you can prep it up and hike and sail with the rich boys that you never were. But at the end of the day, at the end of your experience, when you strip down naked, you are still who you are and no amount of trendy dress is going to change that.

I believe we present to the world what we want them to see. I believe that if we want women to think we are fast and furious even though we haven’t gotten laid in two years that we will put it out there like that. That’s fine as long as we know that when people are making assumptions that are a natural leap from what we are presenting that we really can’t get bent out of shape about it.

Your image is part of who you are but it doesn’t make you who you are. You can’t become a better person by choosing a better image. And if you have no image at all, you aren’t presenting anything about yourself to the world which is a whole other issue.

Images and stereotypes are part of our world. It can be a whole lot of fun to catch someone making an assumption about us and being able to show them something otherwise. If you keep running into the same judgment, check in and try to find how you are presenting that image to the world if it bothers you. If it doesn’t then keep on moving. Because there is definitely a woman out there who is loving the image but who is into the naked version way more.

The return is also true. We make judgments about women all the time. A few times I passed over a woman initially because I really didn’t think she was going to be all that sexually interesting. I loved finding out exactly how wrong I was and exactly how her image didn’t hold her back one bit.

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