Intimacy Problems – How to Deal With Lack of Intimacy During Marriage

By Mia Carmel West

In a marriage, intimacy is an important part in the expression of love between married couples. Without it, marriage suffers because the couple will find it much more difficult to effectively show how much they really love their partner.

However, throughout the course of marriage, intimacy loses its efficacy and frequency for different reasons, leading couples to feel alone and distraught. Worse, they can end up divorced and separated.

Intimacy has become mostly associated with the physical and sexual, but intimacy also comes in different forms such as emotional and mental. What makes intimacy in all forms effective is how it is regularly performed by married couples.

Every time they converse and talk about what they really feel, share the same opinions, or have physical contact adds to their closeness and intimacy that got them married in the first place. When moments of intimacy in marriage do not occur as often as possible, it is normal for married couples to feel estranged, so it is highly important to become intimate on a regular basis to avoid any complications in your relationship.

However, when the damage has been done and intimacy has slowly but surely been washed away, it is time for you to evaluate some of things that have led to this instance in your life, as well as to explore the best possible actions you can take starting from here. It is best that both of you sit through the questions and answer them as honestly as possible so you can really know how you feel towards each other.

Below are some of the more important questions that you have to ask yourself in relation to the lack of your marital intimacy:

• How often have you been getting intimacy with your partner? Do you think lowly or highly of the moments you’ve been intimate? If you’ve rated low, how do you think both of you could improve your intimacy?
• Are you comfortable with your spouse? Is your partner comfortable with you? Do you think the comfort you feel towards each other has contributed to a low level of intimacy?
• Do both of you find each other sexy in their own way? What parts of the body do you find sexy with your partner? Taking the physical aspect out, do you still find your partner sexy?
• Do you really love your partner? How much and in what ways do you express and profess your love towards your spouse?
• Does your intimacy with each other changes when either of you talk or stay silent during a period of time?

Mia Carmel West is a subject matter expert in divorce and relationships. She has written three books that have helped couples make the best and most appropriate decision for their marriage and family. View and purchase her books that contain advice on how to get divorce or you can simply copy and paste this URL on your browser: http://www.divorceguide.com/bookstore/browse/should-you-divorce-divorce-and-separation-advice-from-divorce-guide.html.