Aug 06
How does a Wife get her husband to choose between her and his mistress after he moves out?
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Question by Starla: How does a Wife get her husband to choose between her and his mistress after he moves out?
My estranged husband has been having an affair for 2years. He decided he no longer wants to be with me nor does he want to file the divorce. He hasn’t had any intimate relations with me and doesn’t live in our marital home.
Why does he do this? Do some men enjoy having a wife waiting for them and a mistress too?
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Answer by lemonloveless
he may not want to file for divorce but I dont understand what is stopping you from filing.
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31 Responses to “How does a Wife get her husband to choose between her and his mistress after he moves out?”
August 6th, 2010 at 7:04 am
If he has a mistress, he’s chosen.
Better luck next time.
August 6th, 2010 at 7:43 am
Why dont YOU file for divorce? That can be done you know…?
August 6th, 2010 at 8:07 am
It’s over, and it’s time to move on. Not all men want a mistress, but men who don’t have a sex life at home do !
August 6th, 2010 at 8:13 am
i would file for divorce and sue the hell out of him for everything he has.
but that’s just because i’m a spiteful bitch.
August 6th, 2010 at 8:36 am
sounds to me he made the choice when he moved out
August 6th, 2010 at 9:30 am
Who cares? Divorce the idiot and move on.
August 6th, 2010 at 9:40 am
See a lawyer and what your options are. Dont ever be at ANYONES beck and call, you need a life of your own…he’s old news!
August 6th, 2010 at 9:41 am
why are you waiting for him ?
August 6th, 2010 at 10:19 am
So he’s out banging this other chick, but married to you and you are waiting for him?
Yeah, sounds perfect
August 6th, 2010 at 10:35 am
i tink it’s time for you to file for divorce. let her have him.
August 6th, 2010 at 11:16 am
you can file as well
August 6th, 2010 at 11:33 am
Of course! By not divorcing, he doesn’t lose half of the marital property. It’s the money, honey, not indecision!
See a lawyer and get the divorce started…and don’t be fooled when he begs for “another chance”…that will be the money talking, too.
August 6th, 2010 at 11:35 am
have some diginity. don’t beg. if he wants her, let him have her.
August 6th, 2010 at 12:23 pm
I think she sees a psychiatrist, because she is insane to think that is in anyway…okay. You can petition the court for divorce all by yourself. I do not think he could be any clearer to the fact that he doesn’t want anything to do with you, if you have never lived together or had sex, you can get the marriage annulled. You have already lost this one to the mistress, nothing to win.
August 6th, 2010 at 12:24 pm
If you really want to get his attention, file for divorce and alimony!! Trust me sista Money talks!! Nothing will divert his attention away from another woman like the possibility of losing a large portion of his assets!!
August 6th, 2010 at 1:14 pm
Don’t stop you life waiting around for him to pick you. He just doesn’t want to pay alimony. You can and should press the issue. What he’s doing is not fair.
August 6th, 2010 at 1:39 pm
To answer your last question: some guys consider twice the nagging as twice the lovin’
August 6th, 2010 at 2:33 pm
“How does a Wife get her husband to choose between her and his mistress after he moves out?”
he left you sweetheart. i know that hurts, but it is what it is. he’s gone. done. el fin.
start accepting that fact, so you can continue life.
good luck.
August 6th, 2010 at 2:59 pm
Honey – he already made his choice.. And the mistress won…
Of course he doesn’t want to file for divorce. If you divorce, he will not be able to have his cake and eat it, too. You will be entitled to half of all the marital assets, child support (if you have kids) and possibly spousal support (alimony).
DON’T WAIT for him. He’s betrayed your marriage. File for divorce, take him to the cleaners and move on with your life. You deserve better.
August 6th, 2010 at 3:45 pm
I think he just doesn’t want to deal with all the crap of a divorce and you getting stuff out of him.
I don’t think I’d want to be with this dude if it were me.
August 6th, 2010 at 4:03 pm
If you want a divorce and he wont sign the papers. All you have to do is put in the newspaper. If he doesn’t respond in 30 days. There’s your divorce.
August 6th, 2010 at 4:31 pm
this is not a marriage it is a sad arrangement.
I am not quick to say divorce in many situations, but this is one where you would not be smart to try and hold onto this man.
File the papers, and get on with your life
August 6th, 2010 at 5:12 pm
I don’t think you should torment yourself with wondering what your husband’s motivations are. File for a divorce and get on with the process of healing. Rebuild your life the way you want it. He’s moved on, now you need to do the same.
Best of luck to you!
August 6th, 2010 at 5:47 pm
Im sorry but if he has left you the he has already made his decision.
File for divorce yourself. Dont wait for him to do it.
August 6th, 2010 at 6:17 pm
No yours is just lazy and doesn’t want to pay the cost.
August 6th, 2010 at 6:32 pm
He only does these things to you because you allow it …You go file for divorce and good ridence to bad rubbush.
August 6th, 2010 at 7:13 pm
Why would you want him back? Do you enjoy the misery he puts you through? Do you think you deserve to be treated this way? Divorce his butt and then move on with your life.
August 6th, 2010 at 7:25 pm
Simply in a word…. YES…!
Men immature men want their cake and want to eat it too.
August 6th, 2010 at 7:35 pm
Sounds like he’s made his choice.
What are you waiting for?
August 6th, 2010 at 8:25 pm
1 your lettinh him do this.2nd yes some men do.3rd go out an get laid.
August 6th, 2010 at 9:01 pm
he will eventually file for divorce when the other woman gives him an ultimatum. he just doesn’t want to split the as setts with u. he does it because u allow it. when a man leaves for another woman he made his choice, and u can do cartwheels, u can beg and plead and it won’t make a difference. unless she dumps him there is no chance.